The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

When I feel like something in my life is not quite right, I try to make big changes. It must be something that takes up a large amount of my day that’s making me feel unsettled, right? I must need a new job, I must need to move, I must need to evaluate my relationships.

But big changes are not something that should be taken lightly and don’t necessarily mean you’ll be happy with the results. The grass isn’t always greener when you start a new job at a new place from scratch. It’s not always greener in a different state. And it’s not always greener being single (definitely not greener being single because dating sucks).

It’s hard not to think about bigger and better things waiting for you, to settle into your life and just accept it. To make small, manageable changes that water your grass instead of hopping over a fence to find a new life.

I think especially when you are feeling like change needs to happen, it doesn’t need to happen fast. We can’t make rash decisions when our minds are unclear in the first place. Bloom where you are planted, stop trying to escape your garden and start trying to make it better.

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The Hookup On: Vegan A Day

This is a sponsored post. All opinions are mine.

One of my goals for the summer is to eat vegan once a week. I haven’t eaten meat in over 10 years, but I do occasionally eat fish which makes me a “pescatarian”. I’ve dabbled with the idea of going completely vegan, but there are a lot of things I can’t give up – no matter how gross they actually are.

To walk you through one of my vegan days, I start the morning with a vegan smoothie with almond milk, mixed fruit, beets, and kale. Having a smoothie in the morning is kind of a luxury for me because I usually don’t have time to make them.

For lunch, I still want to make sure I’m getting enough protein which I feel is tough as a vegetarian so really tough as a vegan. I put together a chickpea salad with chickpeas, cucumbers, tomatoes, onions, and some lemon sprinkled over the top with salt and pepper. I have an apple and peanut butter as a snack along with some peanut butter pretzels.

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I always feel like dinner is a bit trickier because I want something heavier at dinner time. A yummy vegan rice bowl-style meal is always a go to for me. I usually put quinoa, pinto beans, onions, jalapenos, and corn with a non dairy ranch dressing on top!

Being completely vegan can be hard, it’s good to do a lot of research to see what your best option is when giving up meat and dairy. I gave up meat because of the way animals are treated on the “farms.” I never try to push my dietary lifestyle on anyone, but I do urge everyone to know where you’re getting your food from and what’s really in it.

A great way to see if vegan is right for you is to try it once a week and then up the days. You can also get your nutrient levels tested at www.healthlabs.com to make sure you’re getting enough of what you need to have a happy and healthy body! They test for different allergies and general wellness!

I think testing is a must because a big misconception is that vegan and vegetarians have a healthy diet. This is definitely not always the case. Yes, vegetables are vegan, but so are oreos. It can be cheap and easy to go for carbs or processed food when you cut out meat. I definitely recommend using a test like the ones at www.healthlabs.com to know how you’re doing as a vegan and in what ways you need to step up your food intake. You can even get 25% off with code ROSIE25!

Would you ever try going vegan?! Let me know in the comments!

The Pressure Of Long Term Relationships

My first serious relationship was 4 years long and when I say serious, I took it very seriously. I pictured marriage and kids. Planned where we’d live, where I’d go to college, and how our lives would be.

At that point in my life, I would frequently say “why bother being in a relationship with someone if you don’t think you’ll get married?” And that was at age 18 ish.

But I can now tell you I was wrong. Because relationships are learning experiences, sometimes it takes 2 seconds to know you don’t like someone and sometimes it takes 2 years. Why should we stop ourselves from diving into love just because we don’t know how serious it will be, how long it will last, or if we’ll get married?

Long term relationships can really apply that pressure especially when you’re in your mid-late twenties where everyone is starting to get engaged and married. It makes you think that the longer the relationship goes on, the harder a break up could be. Just because you’ve been together for someone for three years, does that mean you’ll marry them?

And if you don’t end up marrying them, did you waste your own time or theirs? Is it unfair to be in a relationship if you’re not sure you see marriage down the line?

As always, I preach communication with your partner because it’s honestly something they should know so they can decide for themselves the risks they are taking. Obviously every relationship doesn’t end in marriage, the one I thought that would ended in lots of tiny pieces set on fire. So you can’t base anything off of if you’ll be spending the rest of your life together, you just have to enjoy the time you’re spending together now.

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Forgetting About Your Blessings

In the deep of the day, these are the things I think about: being really tired, work, running errands at lunch, trying to eat healthy, being unhappy with the way I look, what I’m going to make for dinner, taking care of the dog, and being really tired.

These are all things that cloud my mind day in and day out to the point where it seems like that’s all my life is. These mundane things that cause me stress.

But those are just aspects of my life, things that are small but seem large. When I take a step back and look at my week, my month, my year – everything is different. I see the places I’ve traveled, the friends that I don’t get to see often but love when I do, the family that understands me, the boyfriend that is just so special along with our fur baby and reptile child. I see a stable job, an apartment we decorated and pay for all by ourselves, a routine that could seem boring but in other ways is a blessing.

It’s hard to shake the day sometimes. It’s hard to see past the tough stuff, but cherish the moments where you’re sitting on your couch after a good night’s sleep with your dog by your side and the iced coffee your boyfriend bought for you. There is so much more than stress in our lives, we just can’t forget our blessings.

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July Recap

I guess summer is just destined to fly by because I can’t even believe August is almost here. July was everything I wanted and more! I got to spend so much time with my nieces and nephew who live far away and we went on our first trip in a looooong time. Here’s a recap of my July!

Favorite show: Queer Eye

Favorite memory: Going on the boat with my nieces and nephew (and Kaya’s first time on the boat!)

Favorite place: Vancouver

Favorite meal: Alllll about the Macho Matcha ice cream at Perverted in Vancouver

Favorite Instagram: Being open about instagram discouragement

Favorite Tweet: Sharing this shot of Vancouver

Favorite book: Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

Favorite blog post: How I’m feeling about moving in together 6 months later!

Favorite collaboration: Loving the look and quality of my Sudio headphones.

Tell me one memory you have from July in the comments below!

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My Trip To Vancouver

If you read my previous post about preparing for the worst when traveling, you’ll know I almost didn’t make it to Vancouver. Luckily, I did and I LOVED it!

I gauge how much I love a city based off how much I’d want to live there and we ended up seeing how much apartments cost and looking at job openings so it’s safe to say we loved it.

Things I did:

1. Capilano Suspension Bridge
Seriously sooo cool and worth the money, just a little packed!

2. Stanley Park

3. Sunset Beach Park

4. Explored Gastown

5. Vancouver Lookout
The views of Vancouver are incredible, beautiful buildings surrounded by ocean and mountains!

Places I ate:

1. Nelson the Seagull

2. Tim Horton’s
I had to, right?

3. Cactus Club Cafe

4. Perverted
Really cool looking and yummy ice cream!

5. Forage

6. Heritage Asian Eatery

I loooooved Vancouver. That was my first time to the West Coast of North America and it did not disappoint! I have a special place in my heart for Canadian cities, they are just so clean and friendly for people my age. All of the buildings are so beautifully designed and you can literally not get sick of seeing the mountains over the ocean – it’s stunning. I’d love to go back one day.

Have you ever been to Vancouver?

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