“Are you going to bring him back tonight or are you going to his place?” My roommate asks me as I put the finishing touches on my mascara.
“Hopefully going back there, but I will text you if anything changes!”
Now before you start jumping to conclusions, let me make this clear: I am not a whore, and I am definitely not “easy.” These are assumptions that are easily made when someone thinks of an openly sexual female.
But assumptions are just that. Without knowing someones past, someones history, or every aspect of their life – how can you be the one who calls them a slut, a whore, or easy.
Right after I got out of a long-term relationship, I was down to have casual sex with just about any guy. Looking back, I refer to that time period as the “Gaining Experience” stage of my life.
The beginning of this semester I made a pact with one of my best friends that we wouldn’t just have random sex with guys, unless we were really serious about each other. Pretty sure we both broke that pact within the first weekend. Not because we don’t have morals, but because casual sex is just so much easier than having a relationship.
I could blame it on college, I could blame it on being the “hook-up generation”, but at the end of the day, it is just easier not to get attached and just have fun with a lot of people.
Having a one-night stands definitely has its consequences, but at the same time has some advantages. If you know you could strictly just hook up with someone just for one night, fully aware that the guy may not ever talk to you again, would you? I know I would because after having my heart broken more than once, it is a lot easy to invest yourself in a one night stand than a relationship that lasts for years