Dear “new girl,”
Not too long ago, I was in your position. Not quite dating him, but not just friends either. You feel an excited twinge in your stomach when you wake up in the morning and see a text from him. You check your phone after a while away from it and only care to see his name. You know you can’t claim him as your own, but you’re jealous of any girl he speaks to anyway.
As much as I hate to admit this, you’re a really lucky girl. Thankfully, we didn’t end on bad terms. As much as I say I hate him, I have no reason to. Things just didn’t work out and there’s not a single part of me that resents him. I know he’s a great boyfriend, and I know you’ll think so too. As hurt as I am to know you two are together, I do wish to give you some advice whether you listen to it or not.
First of all, don’t worry about other girls. Other girls will love him and swoon over him, but he will only have eyes for you. He will treat you with the utmost respect, and you can trust that attention from other girls doesn’t even faze him. Don’t get jealous when he’s laughing with another girl because I promise he doesn’t think she’s even half as funny as you are.
Secondly, believe what he tells you. You might think what he says is just another line, but he proves it with his actions. He is the one guy I’ve ever known that has proven to me that he meant everything he said. When he says you have a cute laugh, don’t question it. He truly means it.
He’s more sensitive than he wants you to believe. He gets just as jealous as you do. He cares for you more than you think he does. He notices the little things about you; some he will tell you he’s noticed and some he won’t. He also talks about you to anyone who will listen. He feels more deeply than he wants people to know, but don’t force it out of him either. Just pay close attention, and you’ll see what I mean.
I could go on and on. He is dedicated, committed, passionate, loving, caring, funny, kind, ambitious and much more. It kills me to see him with another girl. I hate knowing another girl has replaced me. However, I would hate it even more if the new girl didn’t treat him the way he should be treated. He’s showed me the true meaning of love and exactly what a relationship would be. I hope he can do the same for you, and I truly hope you two are happy.
The “old girl”