I think one my biggest pet peeves in a relationship is being made to look stupid. When your partner is doing something behind your back and everyone knows except you.
Since my first boyfriend, I’ve always preached that if I was ever cheated on I would end it then and there. No reason to talk about it, no reason to forgive, it would just be over. Because how can you forgive and forget someone blatantly breaking your trust? When they go out at night you’ll wonder who they’re with, what they’re doing, and if they’re doing someone else. They’re just natural thoughts especially when you’ve been hurt. This will just lead to an unhealthy relationship of fighting and mistrust.
I was never cheated on when I said those things, so it was easy to say that I would just leave it all behind without a second glance.
Then there’s the whole lying aspect of cheating. I can understand how hard it must be to own up to your actions, especially when someone’s hanging something over your head like “if you cheat on me, it’s over.” And you may not want it to end, but then again a little piece of you wanted something else. That something else wasn’t your girlfriend/boyfriend. Their friends probably knew about the cheating, the girl or guy who they cheated with knows, everyone but you knew. You were standing there holding someone’s hand and everyone was pitying you.
Even if someone could somehow get past the mistrust. They somehow let you go out at night with your friends alone, they somehow avoid fighting with you, they somehow get past the fact that you were with someone else. Everyone’s still going to know you cheated on them – and they will always be looked at as the weaker being that got back together with someone who treated them so poorly.