We’re often told that all good things must come to an end. Which just means that every beginning has an ending. So it’s easy to look at dating with a negative viewpoint instead of a positive one.
This is especially true if you have gone through heart break. Every relationship comes to a break up. It looks like every wave of feelings has a shelf life. Because married couples often get divorced, and kids my age often cheat on each other, and everyone at one point thinks they’ve fallen in love only to get crushed in the end.
Because there’s always an end.
Dating is depressing because I always go into it with the same outlook. I dread first dates or even starting up any conversation with someone who seems interested in me because I know it’ll have to end. And I know in most cases – because I’m so hesitant to date – I’ll be the one to end it. Just because I assume that at one point we’re going to break up, so I might as well get it over with now.
Dating is depressing because even if you do let yourself get vulnerable enough to like someone, they don’t have to like you back. They don’t have to text you back, message you back, or call you back. You could singlehandedly crush yourself for having high expectations.
Dating is depressing because some people are really desperate to find the one – so they look for it in every person they meet. They put you up on a pedestal and from the first time you make any sort of romantic contact, they think you’re perfect. They think you’re the one. And you just don’t think that way.
There are too many unanswered questions and too many emotions to invest for dating not to seem depressing to me. It’s easier to keep it light and fluffy, no strings attached, because honestly my life has enough problems as it is – who needs to throw another person’s problems into the mix?