You Could Have Met Your Future Spouse Before You Even Turned 16

I once read that 82% of people meet their future spouse before they even turn 16.

I tried doing my research on this one to find out where it came from and everything was unconfirmed. Β This is basically a made up statistic. Yet, it resonated with me and sticks with me to this day – you may have met the person you’re supposed to marry already, but you have no idea.

I think a majority of people meet their future spouse in college. It seems that in the four years there, everyone is in the same state of mind to settle down before or right after they graduate. So that debunks the statistic right there.

Then there are the people who stay with their high school sweethearts and end up marrying them. It’s not uncommon at all to see people who started holding hands in 8th grade end up kissing each other at the alter 10 years later.

But what about the people who moved back home after college. The ones who dumped their high school sweetheart (or got dumped, like me lol) and the ones who didn’t want to make the commitment while they were living it up in college.

There’s always the chance to meet new people at the gym, or at work, or when you’re out with your friends at the bar. But a lot of people from your high school also moved home after college. They’re all back in the same place and all the single ones are in the same situation as you.

I’ve heard of a lot of relationships blooming after college between two people who knew each other in high school, but were not necessarily friends. I can’t imagine myself ever dating someone I knew before I was 16. First of all, I was a completely different person back then. Like I was pretty weird and friendless. Secondly, I feel like it must be pretty awkward to just pick up where you left off 8 years ago.

But who knows, maybe I’m part of that imaginary 82%. Maybe most of us do meet who we are going to marry before we’re 16, we just have to keep an open mind.

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23 thoughts on “You Could Have Met Your Future Spouse Before You Even Turned 16

  1. God, if I met my future spouse before I turned 16 then I’m screwed. Ha. I can’t see myself marrying any of those guys! No way. I have heard that “statistic” too though haha. My friend recently got engaged and she definitely didn’t know this guy when she was 16. Statistics are weird. The internet is weird. Life is weird. Who knows, maybe I WILL end up with one of those guys from high school haha.

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    1. There is no shot I would ever marry anyone I actually knew very well and was friends with before I was 16 so I feel ya lol but this statistic always pops up on social media once in a while and I’m here thinking that guy I passed in the hallway that one time in high school could be my future husband lol

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  2. I agree with you, 82% sounds an unbelievably high statistic which, quite frankly should (in my view) be taken with a sack full of salt! I also agree, the person I was at the age of 15, is not who I currently am! Having said that, as with most things in life there are nearly always exceptions that prove the rule. Kevin
    I agree with you, 82% sounds an unbelievably high statistic which, quite frankly should (in my view) be taken with a sack full of salt! I also agree, the person I was at the age of 15, is not who I currently am! Having said that, as with most things in life there are nearly always exceptions that prove the rule. Kevin

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  3. Throughout my life I’ve known SO many people who’ve met their intended at a disco, club or dance hall (older acquaintances), quite incredible actually, or maybe back in the ‘good old days’ absence of internet dating and all that, you had to go and meet people. I must admit I’m not sold on the internet scene………. tooo stressful especially Skype Texting!

    Honey don’t you ever give up hope πŸ™‚ attractive girl like yourself.

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  4. I met my first husband when I was in my 20s! It was because of a college friend. πŸ™‚
    I met someone I almost married from my spiritual org.
    The next one….? I guess we’ll see. πŸ™‚
    I love what you write about keeping an open mind.
    So many blessings to you, & take good care
    Debbie

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  5. I met my husband when I was 12. We later reconnected in high school (we went to different schools). We were 19and 20 when we married. 32 years later and still together but I always thought we were a statistical anomaly not in the 82%. That seems high to me.

    You said you can’t imagine marrying someone you knew before you were 16 because you e changed so much. Odds are the person changed too.

    It’s so fickle. In the end, the heart wants what the heart wants defying logic πŸ˜‚

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  6. Yup, I fall into this group. When I was around 15, my wife’s older sister told me I was going to marry her sister one day (my wife is 6 years younger than me). I said, yeah right. 22 years later it happened. Great post!

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