I would define getting over a break up as being able to think of the relationship and not shudder, being able to date and trust someone again, and fully recovered from any of the left over pain that is related to the relationship and break up.
Getting over a break up is not an easy thing to do.
I once read that you can get over a break up in half the time of the duration of the relationship. Two years ago, I was in a four year relationship that ended. I thought that two years seemed like a crazy amount of time to have to wait to get over someone. But if you factor in all the bits and pieces that you need to make you whole again after someone shatters you, two years doesn’t seem like a long time at all. In fact, it might not even be long enough.
These are the tools you need in order to get over that heartache:
Don’t jump into something new or force yourself to feel better as soon as possible. It’s unhealthy and unproductive.
2. A rebound
Someone who doesn’t care you’re using them and someone you don’t care about using.
3. Being happy alone
You need to relearn who you are by yourself and outside of a relationship.
4. The person who will really get you out of it
Once you’ve given yourself the time, had your crazy rebound, and learned how to be happy alone. There will be the person who will pull you out of the rest of your self-dug hole. The person that you can finally trust again, the person you have the ability to fall in love with.