I haven’t had the best relationships, they’ve all ended pretty poorly. So, when an ex texts me the first thing that comes to my mind is “literally, no.” I’ve gotten a text before and audibly said “NO” because that’s how much I didn’t want their name popping up on my notifications. If their name even pops up, meaning if I hadn’t deleted their number by now. Oops…
They don’t always come back, but they usually do. I think we’re all guilty of it – overthinking and sending a text to someone who used to mean so much to us.
What do you do?
Depends how it ended. If you think you can hold it together, refrain from unleashing any old feelings, and keep a level head – by all means, text them back. Tell him/her how you’re doing and ask how they are doing. Have a civil catch up, squash an indication of romance, and be done with it.
If you know you can’t hold it together (and trust me, I don’t blame you), don’t answer it. You’ve probably been working pretty hard to get over that person and having another unproductive conversation will just set you 10 steps back.
You might want to know why they’re texting you. The curiosity might dig at you. Stalk their Facebook, did him and that girl he tried to get over you with obnoxiously break up? THEN DON’T ANSWER. You’re better than a rebound.
Can’t find any overwhelming evidence as to why they would want to speak to you again? Text back, but know you can end the conversation whenever you want. You should really take advantage of this.
You’re better than your ex. You’ve grown, and even if it doesn’t seem like that much, you really have been working at bettering yourself. Don’t let anyone tear you down. Text your friends with a screenshot, talk some shit, and stay strong. It’s just an ex.