Making the decision to remove someone from your life is hard. You probably have a very lengthy and complicated past with this person. A past that once may have involved happiness and love but began to bring out the worst in you.
If someone in your life is putting you down instead of picking you up, they need to go. There is no reason to keep around someone so negative. Someone who is literally stunting your growth and keeping a firm and solemn grip on your life.
Recognizing when someone is doing this to you isn’t simple. You’ve become so engrossed in this relationship. It’s easy to see the ups and downs as just something you’ve conquered together. But when there are more downs than ups and everything just seems like a downhill battle – then for their sake and yours, cut off the communication and live your separate lives.
Relapsing is always a possibility. This was someone you needed, confided in, fought for many times. And they failed you. But you wanted them so badly to succeed. You can only forgive someone so many times. People can only change to a certain extent. Don’t put all of your faith into something that can’t be changed.
If you do let them back into your life you’ll quickly realize the mistake you made. Hopefully it’s one you only make once.
I had an ex that I battled hard to get over. It took a very long time and a lot of emotional damage to get to where I am. He recently decided to text me and all I could think was how rude it was of him to intrude on my life.
Why would someone who knowingly inflicted so much pain on you try to slither their way back into your life and bring back those emotions? Because they’re selfish, they aren’t thinking of you – they are only thinking of themselves.
They’re toxic and they’ll always be toxic. Learning to recognize these people and ditch them can be the best thing for building yourself up. Don’t let anyone dictate your happiness.