Making the decision to remove someone from your life is hard. You probably have a very lengthy and complicated past with this person. A past that once may have involved happiness and love but began to bring out the worst in you.
If someone in your life is putting you down instead of picking you up, they need to go. There is no reason to keep around someone so negative. Someone who is literally stunting your growth and keeping a firm and solemn grip on your life.
Recognizing when someone is doing this to you isn’t simple. You’ve become so engrossed in this relationship. It’s easy to see the ups and downs as just something you’ve conquered together. But when there are more downs than ups and everything just seems like a downhill battle – then for their sake and yours, cut off the communication and live your separate lives.
Relapsing is always a possibility. This was someone you needed, confided in, fought for many times. And they failed you. But you wanted them so badly to succeed. You can only forgive someone so many times. People can only change to a certain extent. Don’t put all of your faith into something that can’t be changed.
If you do let them back into your life you’ll quickly realize the mistake you made. Hopefully it’s one you only make once.
I had an ex that I battled hard to get over. It took a very long time and a lot of emotional damage to get to where I am. He recently decided to text me and all I could think was how rude it was of him to intrude on my life.
Why would someone who knowingly inflicted so much pain on you try to slither their way back into your life and bring back those emotions? Because they’re selfish, they aren’t thinking of you – they are only thinking of themselves.
They’re toxic and they’ll always be toxic. Learning to recognize these people and ditch them can be the best thing for building yourself up. Don’t let anyone dictate your happiness.
Rosie Culture 
Rosie, did I ever mention my Mom’s nickname is Rosie? Anyway, I turned 50 ten years ago, read an article to increase my life span and enjoy more, to cut toxic people. One I used to write to~ I don’t anymore. Another was close for years since high school, but never once was I able to unburden my problems. She even insisted, thinking back to come for a weekend when I had just miscarried and wanted to be left alone with my husband, to grieve.
The last straw was when I got divorced and I helped her weed whack all around her home, set up chairs, cook and co-host her sons graduation party. I decide to leave after guests arrived, explained to her son, just not in the mood to socialize and my so called friend yelled at me. In front of guests. Eliminating her was so easy after that! Everyone should read your essay! ☆☆☆☆
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Haha that’s so cute your mom and I have the same name! Thank you for sharing your story, it definitely takes a while to realize how someone is negatively impacting your life. You went through all of those things and while you were there for your friend, she wasn’t there for you. It’s so great you realized you didn’t need that person in your life anymore. Thank you for reading and commenting 🙂
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I learned the hard way that shucking negative people was a positive thing for my health! 🙂
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I feel like we always have to learn lessons the hard way, but in the long run it all works out 🙂
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This is why I’m glad I don’t have kids. So many people I know can’t remove the toxic people because they are bound by legal agreements involving children.
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I know exactly what you mean – one of the reasons I don’t plan on having kids and one of the reasons marriage scares me!
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Good Advice Rosie 🙂
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Thank you!
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I had an ex do exactly the same thing to me, and he contacted me recently to tell me he was sorry and all I could think of is how would you feel if someone treated your daughter the same way you treated me.
Pressing the delete button felt very good
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Good for you! The text I got was along the same lines and this time it wasn’t hard to say goodbye and mean it. They just want to make themselves feel better
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Either that or they want to drag you into some drama of their’s
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This cheered me up. Thanks for liking mine too 🙂
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I’m glad – and no problem, I look forward to reading more 🙂
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