Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

We tend to shield ourselves from pain before anything can really happen, therefore it’s not an every day occasion where we let ourselves fall in love. Especially if we know the person we’re falling in love with doesn’t love us back.

It’s just human nature to avoid the situation all together when you know it’s happening.  This person has made it clear they don’t want to be with you – for any number of reasons.  They just got out of a relationship, they see you as more of a friend, it’s just not the right time.  When this happens you have two choices to make.

1.  Stick around and hope realllllly hard you can be just friends.

Maybe the occasional cuddling and movie watching won’t affect you.  Maybe you can be friends with benefits.  The emotions could just stop here and all will be well.

2. Run like hell.

You KNOW you’re going to fall in love with this person.  Their touch makes your skin burn and you wait by your phone all day for their texts.

Sometimes, we choose to stick around because it’s just so hard to let go of this person we’ve become so attached to.  They always end up breaking our hearts.  You think that maybe since you can’t be casual, you can make them love you back.  You can be all that they want you to be and eventually they’ll have no choice but to love you and live happily ever after.

That rarely happens.  It usually ends in you growing bitter towards the person, toward someone you love, which just ends up in a boiling hatred that is paired with an unrequited love. It’s a pretty awful feeling.

And if you run? Delete them on all forms of social media, ignore them in person, talk shit on them to all of your friends.  Do you think it will make you feel better?

It probably will for a little while, but with anything you love, you will always carry a piece of them with you.  What hurts the most is, while that person piggybacks on your heart for the rest of your life, you’re merely just someone they cared about for a little while and then left.  To them, you’re gone and to you, they are forever.

30 thoughts on “Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

  1. “What hurts the most is, while that person piggybacks on your heart for the rest of your life, you’re merely just someone they cared about for a little while and then left. ” –this, now, unfortunately. :/

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      1. You’re welcome! It took me while but i’m finally handling it! I’m going to refer back your blog often 🙂 I have had a browse through your previous posts and you’re really inspiring!

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  2. how about i run run run run run……it is good to love, i would just be contented the love grew in my heart. this happens a lot, nothing to be sad about. I nominated you for the one lovely blog award, do check out my last post, and take as much time as you want should you choose to accept, if you don’t do awards, know that i love you still. muaaah.

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  3. Jeesh, that’s pretty grim stuff, Rosie. Have you thought of any other options since? It makes me feel kinda bad!
    What advice would you give to the person on the other side of the equation? 😦

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    1. Nope haha I believe that running away really is the best option in the long rung. To the person on the other side: if they are aware that someone is in love with them and they can’t love them back, then they need to rationally explain it to the person and end the relationship. I think the longer the relationship continues, the worse it will get

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      1. That is very sound advice Rosie. But what if the person on the other side simply enjoys that person’s company and all of that – what happens if the want to be good friends. Is it just to cruel to the first person (the one that is in love) for them to be friends without a ‘relationship’?

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  4. The only person I have love the most doesn’t love me back the same way. We were best friends and even though he was my best friend..he meant more to me and he knew that. I wish I controlled myself way back because now I just have happy memories that makes me cry. We are still close friends but nothing feels the same. I should have chosen the second option. Not that I haven’t tried but my heart was not ready and kept on hoping of that ‘one day’.

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