A lot of people have a problem with the way millennials date. Or the lack of dating that occurs. Sure, we live in a hookup culture. We choose one night stands over lasting relationships. We honestly have too many people to meet and too much to do.
But in many ways, we date just like everyone else did. We just choose to use different terms for it. This is what I have a problem with. Because a lot of people will describe their relationship as “we’re just talking” which is really saying “we’re absolutely nothing.”
Once you’re out of college, you’ll find that it’s not a crime to casually date more than one person at a time. You don’t really make a commitment or become exclusive with anyone until you really get to know them. This is hard to do in college because it’s such a tight knit community.
If you’re texting someone every day and hooking up with someone exclusively, you’re dating. I know dating is a scary term for some people because it means commitment, but unless you’ve both agreed you’re in a mongonaous relationship, dating still gives you an easy way out. If you’re both looking for something long term and are dedicated to each other, you are in a relationship.
If you are just hooking up with really no definitions – then you’re just hooking up. If you text every day but nothing else has happened then you’re just texting. But stop saying “we’re talking” as if it’s some romantic gesture. It’s just an unnecessary label you’re giving yourself to make your life and the dating world way more complicated.
In general, if you’re feeling some way about someone then you should try to define it. Whether It’s flirty friends, hooking up, dating, or in a relationship. But please stop saying “we’re talking” – it’s not a clearly defined form of relationship. When everything is blurry and unclear, someone is bound to get hurt. Because some people think we’re talking means friends with benefits while others think it means a full blown commitment. Avoid the term to avoid the heart ache – stop saying “we’re talking.”