Self destructive behaviors are hard to avoid. You could be self centered, a bad listener, a serial dater, a player, a flirt – just someone who is constantly making things worse for themselves and for others.
Social media makes it very easy for us to become jealous of others. We are constantly exposed to everyone else’s lives and the grass always looks greener on the other side. Plus they’re getting more likes than us on Instagram.
But it’s okay to want attention – I’d be a little worried if you didn’t. No matter how self sufficient you are, you don’t want to get to the point of independence where you’re actually isolating yourself and making yourself lonely.
So we seek attention from others. Whether it’s wanting a lot of retweets or wanting a boy to flirt with you at the bar, sometimes we just need some validation. It’s okay to want that every once in a while. On the days you’re feeling low and something as simple as a compliment on your smile can turn your whole day around.
The key is not to need the attention. You do not want to be reliant on the approval of others. You are the main component to your own happiness, if you are not relying on yourself you will never be able to rely properly on other people.
Another key is to not destruct other people’s lives in the search of attention. You can take someone’s admiration, but you shouldn’t lead it anywhere with false intentions. It will hurt you and it will hurt someone else.
So yea, take pride in someone buying you a drink at the bar. And accept the flirty snapchats. But always accept them with caution, care, and the best intentions in mind.