We’re all perfectionists – there are different degrees – but we all want to be some sort of perfect. We want to look like the girl in the magazine, have a relationship like the one in the movies, excel at our jobs like a millionaire, or be the perfect family member like we see our friends being.
Rarely are we motivated by ourselves. We are motivated by people who don’t think we’re good enough. The people who give side glances when we’re in a bathing suit, the boss that rolls their eyes at us, the family member that is fed up with our mistakes.
And we consistently are trying to impress people – but are they always people that matter?
When you’re waiting for someone you went on a date with to text you back, you start evaluating all the things you’ve done wrong. But do they deserve that? Was there such a connection that you need to go out of your way to tell your best stories, be some fake version of yourself so they’ll like you? Do you really even like them?
And when your boss or your friend or whoever it is is telling you you’re failing no matter how hard you’re trying – are they really worth it? Are they really making you happy? Why are you trying to impress someone who adds literally no positivity to your life.
You should be the one that’s motivating you. You should know that if a guy doesn’t like you then he’s not worth it. That not every person you go on a date with is worth worrying over and killing yourself to try to impress them.
You should be the one that knows you can excel at a job or can lose the weight or can do something that makes you happy.
Stop trying to impress people that make you feel bad about yourself, that add negativity, that are just not worth your time. They’re not worthless – they’re just not worth it to you. Be your own kind of perfect, impress yourself and impress the people that truly matter and deserve to matter to you.