There is a point in everyone’s life where it’s okay to be a little selfish. You still need to care about the important people in your life – your good friends, good family, good coworkers. But you also need to remember that the most important person in your life really is you.
If you can’t take care of yourself, how do you expect to take care of other people? Your mental health, physical health, and happiness are necessary for you as well as the other people around you.
But it’s honestly very easy to put other people first. They just become such a huge part of your life that you forget about yourself all together. You work so hard to make them happy, so hard to improve their lives. But this is destructive to yourself.
I spent so much of my life trying to fit in, trying to please boyfriends and family and friends who weren’t thinking about my best interest at the time.
And now I just don’t care – if you’re not building me up then you’re nothing at all. And if my actions aren’t pleasing you, make me an oddball, make me unattractive to you – I really don’t care and I’m really not sorry.
I’m unapologetic because I spent so much of my life apologizing. Apologizing to people and for things that just didn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.
Sorry I’m not sorry I wasn’t the girlfriend you wanted me to be. Sorry I’m not sorry I wasn’t supportive of your bad habits. Sorry I’m not sorry I didn’t let you walk all over me anymore. And sorry I’m not sorry I’m doing what I need to do to be happy.
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Exactly ā¤ļø
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Great post! I had to go through this same thing. Just remember you don’t have to apologize for not feeling sorry! š
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Thank you! You’re definitely right! š
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Ugh yaaaassss. This is sending out all the best messages. Mental health comes first and if it means being a tad selfish then so be it. Great post x
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Thank you!! Being selfish isn’t always a bad thing š
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Go you!! Doing the same here… shifting focus from others and pleasing to myself first… thanks for this post š
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Thank you for reading! And good for you!! š
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Never apologize for doing what is best for you. Good job! š
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Thank you š it’s easy to forget what’s best for you when you’re so focused on other people!
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Just remember to take care of you.
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mind is the best companion .. why should we hurt it..never..
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Very true š
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I love this !!
And need it š
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Thank you!! Definitely start being a little selfish if it means it’ll make you happier š
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I took a page from this book yesterday. I stayed home and cleaned on Mothers Day- because that’s what I felt like doing, versus driving 2 hours round trip to see my mom. I was selfish. I’ll get there this weekend!
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Sometimes you have to be! And the people you love will understand š
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Well, I don’t know that she really understands (my two sisters live plane rides away, versus a car ride for me); however, I got a lot done and I was happy about that. Lol
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Ah well haha you gotta do what you gotta do
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Okay?
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Love this!
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Thank you š
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People can be thoughtless and use you for their own benefit but note not because they’re nasty people, quite the opposite they appreciate what you do because you’re capable but use you all the same.
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I don’t think everyone is appreciative, but there are a few who deserve your time as long as you remember to make some time for yourself
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Good girl…never be sorry that your not what someone else wants…it is what it is…you are you and never need to change for anyone…great post….kat
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Thank you š it’s a relief to finally be unapologetic
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never apologize unless you know you need to….!!!
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