I googled the term “emotionally stupid” because I wanted to know if anyone else was as dumb as me when it comes to identifying their own emotions, specifically when it comes to romance. One of the first things that popped up was a question on Yahoo Answers asking: “Why are men so emotionally stupid???” There was a lot of argument, but a summary is that some people just don’t function emotionally like other people. A lot of people assume men are emotionally stupid because they don’t necessarily express themselves a lot or they just aren’t as sensitive as women. But there are a lot of emotionally stupid women too, I am one of them.
Being emotionally aware basically boils down to knowing yourself. Are you self aware and are you in control? If there’s a part of you that feels emotionally unaware, you might just need to work on your sense of self before finding someone else.
There could also be a problem with being too self aware. You know what you want and you know how to get it, but there is just some kind of disconnect between the going after and the getting. So you feel emotionally stupid.
As someone who has been working on their sense of self for more than two years, this is extremely frustrating. Because really, how many things need to happen in your life before you finally understand who you are? And does anyone ever really know who they are? After working so hard to find who I am, there is still no one in front of me to connect my emotions to.
So are you emotionally stupid or just waiting for the right person to come along to connect those emotions to? If you can’t figure out how you feel about someone, it’s probably because that person is not the butterflies and fairytales person you’re meant to fall in love with. You may be emotionally stupid right now, but it’s just because you haven’t met the person who puzzle pieces into your emotional intellect.
Your feelings will decipher themselves when they become strong enough. Work on your self and the feelings you can understand. You’re never as emotionally stupid as you think you are.