Even when I was immature I think I was more mature than most people my age. When I was younger I dated someone older than me and I thought that I would continue that pattern because guys my age or younger just seemed sooo immature.
Your age and your maturity level don’t always correlate. People say girls mature faster than boys, which may be true, but really everyone is different based on their life experiences.
Age differences don’t really matter. You can connect to someone 50 years older than you or 20 years younger than you. Dating someone younger or older than you really just depends on the maturity level. Some people are a couple years ahead on their maturity level and some people are a couple years behind. Both are completely fine.
If you’re 23 and feel that you’re as mature as a 33 year old – that’s completely fine. And you could easily have a happy relationship with someone ten years older than you. But they would also have to be as mature as a 33 year old. Because if he’s 33 and is as mature as a 23 year old, it’s the maturity gap that’s not okay – not the age gap.
It might seem fun and adventurous to date someone who is more immature than you, but eventually your timeline won’t match up. This could happen with an age difference too. But if you’re in college and she’s working full time and you’re both on the same maturity level, it’ll probably work out because you both want the same things in life, even if you’re different ages.
Evaluate your maturity level before hopping into a relationship with an age difference. If you want to be a cougar chaser or cradle robber, be free and do you. But make sure you’re mature or immature enough to handle it.