When you’re desperate for love, you can basically turn any person into your soul mate. You can build them up in your head to be the perfect match you’ve been waiting for. And if they do the same, you’ll probably get married and possibly live happily ever after, or maybe not so happily ever after.
But when you settle like that, you miss out on meeting “the one.” You gave up on the excitement, butterflies, and fairy tale ending because you just got tired of waiting. I’m sure the replacement guy or gal is perfectly fine, but you could really have so much more. You haven’t met the one because you’ve settled down with someone else due to loneliness and you’re just not looking anymore.
Or you haven’t met “the one” and you’re actively dating. You continuously try to meet new people, go on first dates, create texting relationships and nothing pans out. There’s always some sort of excuse – that guy from the date wasn’t that cute. That girl at the bar seemed kind of like a party animal. The person you’re texting just can’t hold a conversation.
All of these excuses stem from the fact that you are not actually looking for the one. No matter how much you tell yourself you’re ready, you’re probably just not.
And that’s okay. You can keep trying, but until you get over whatever the bump in the road is that is making you not ready, each date is going to end in an excuse. Each person you meet is going to end in an excuse. Each flirtatious conversation is going to end in an excuse.
Is it easy to find the love of your life? No. But it is a lot easier when you are 100% ready for that type of commitment and not just looking to marry the first guy that thinks you’re pretty. You haven’t met the one because you’re not actually looking. But if you take your time, become aware, and open – then maybe one day you won’t even know you’re looking and love will jump start your heart without a warning.