The Hookup On: Feeling Ordinary

There was a time in my life where I would have done anything just to do nothing. I wanted to be lazy, watch Netflix, sleep a lot, and just stay in one place.

I fell in and out of that phase for a couple of years through college. Sometimes I wanted to do everything, sometimes I wanted to do nothing at all.

But something really clicked when I graduated and started working a 9-5 job, Monday through Friday. After the excitement of accepting a new job passes, everything becomes redundant. Waking up, going to work, cooking dinner, watching tv, going to sleep, and waking up to go to work again. The weekends were spent trying to piece myself together again after an exhausting week. There just had to be more.

I don’t think anyone ever wants to feel ordinary. You want to feel like you’re doing more, like you’re one of the special ones. But there are a lot of people that I could point my finger to and call them just ordinary. And sometimes I wonder if I’m one of them.

What do you do when everything just seems so blah? Work is blah, social life is blah, dating is blah. You can try to change up your routine. Go somewhere new for dinner, travel on the weekends, join a gym – but the blahness will still be there unless you change your whole outlook.

If you’re bored, then you’re boring. If you consistently think your life is blah, it’s going to be blah. If you’re upset that you’re ordinary, then make a change. Most of the time, we are the only ones in our own way. It’s not our 9-5 job, it’s not the mediocre weekend plans with friends, it’s not the spark-less first dates. It’s us.

But if you wake up in the morning and tell yourself you’re going to make today just a little better. Or if you change up your routine with enthusiasm, you’re going to be more than ordinary.

And on days, or weekends, or months when I just feel like I’ve been doing the same thing day in and day out – I remind myself to get out of my own way. That there are so many things to be done, but I don’t have to do them all right now. I can have one boring day, but that doesn’t mean I’m ordinary. And I can have an exciting day, but that doesn’t mean I’m extraordinary. Unless I follow through with a new attitude.

You can do and be anything you want, you can be more than ordinary.

21 thoughts on “The Hookup On: Feeling Ordinary

  1. I had never thought about it being a fear of being ordinary. I am definitely suffering from that fear and that’s why no one stays with me past 10 months. I think you hit the nail on the head with waking up and deciding what the day will bring. Loved this, Rosie!


  2. It can take a while to get comfortable with the new routines of life. And still you might find yourself having an off day, just out of the blue. But that’s why I like to plan fun things here and there, try new adventures or activities to help keep my spark going. 🙂

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  3. I was thinking about starting up a new morning routine that would have me up and out of bed early at my computer before six. I should finally starting such a routine; I’ve been trying off and on to do so for weeks to no avail. I’ve heard doing what one cares about first thing can leave you feeling refreshed and enlivened throughout the day. Making such a routine habitual may then help one feel habitually enlivened. I thought of this again while reading your post.

    To be bored is to be boring, you wrote. So true. I have to believe the opposite is true as well: to be engaged is to be engaging. Opening the day by Doug what engages us most deeply may leave us feeling more engaged throughout the day. You may have helped push me toward doing this. Starting tomorrow. I appreciate that. Hopefully you keeping shaking things up yourself, too, Rosie. Great post.

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    1. To be engaged is to be engaging – I love that! Just by being interested in your own life, other people will be interested as well. I’m not a morning person, but I would love to switch up my evening routine. I hope your routine ends up in the place you would like it to be 🙂 Thanks for reading!

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