Break ups are pretty much the worst. Whether you are the one initiating the break up or you are the one being broken up with.
In most cases, you don’t want to hurt the person that you’ve been in a relationship with – no matter how long it lasted. Special feelings are developed when you commit to someone. Sometimes those feelings develop more on one side than the other.
It’s no one’s fault. You’re not getting broken up with because you’re not good looking or not smart or not fun. It’s just not working out on one side of the relationship. And it sucks for the person doing the breaking up just as much as it does for the one who is getting broken up with.
Because as humans, we just don’t want to let people down. We don’t want to disappoint. But when I break up with someone, I feel all of that disappointment. I feel so sorry that I couldn’t make it work out. That I couldn’t fall in love with you the way you fell in love with me.
Is it our fault that we don’t feel as deeply as someone else? I think in some ways, you can limit yourself to opening up to a relationship or cause some riffs to just make it seem like the relationship should end. You make excuses for yourself.
But if you just can’t justify that person as being “the one,” then there’s not much you can do about it. The fair thing is to break up with them – even if that seems just so unfair.
The falling out of love and the break ups and the disappointment can easily make you afraid of relationships. Yes, of course, we all want to fall in love. But no, I definitely do not want to have to break up with someone again. I fear that even more than being broken up with at this point. Because at least if I’m being dumped, I can be disappointed in my partner. When I break up with someone, I feel their disappointment in me and my disappointment in myself.
Rosie Culture 
But, when you know you made the right decision in breaking it off, you feel a teeny bit better. At least I do lol
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It is a relief once you get over the initial sucky feeling haha
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I totally resonate with this. I’ve been with someone for 3 years, and now things are slowly breaking up. It’s super hard. Harder than I ever thought it’d be.
“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.” – Liam Neeson
Thanks for sharing Rosie 🙂
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Aw I’m sorry to hear that! I love that quote it’s so true. Thanks for reading 🙂
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This is so true. Great post!
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Thanks 🙂
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I love that this post… It is so difficult to take that first step, to end it, but when you really know that it is over, you will end it. That is a legitimate fear…getting hurt goes hand-in-hand with love. A sad reality but when you are ready, you will know.
Great post!
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So true, thanks for sharing your thoughts! I will check out your post asap 🙂
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No problem. I really appreciate it!
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