So you got hurt. It happens to all of us eventually and we all cope with it in different ways. Many people choose to build a wall to keep everyone out, to keep future hurt from getting in.
And it kind of feels like nothing will ever break that wall down again. Nothing or no one. People try to chip away at it, but you are still there to reinforce it. You don’t want a broken heart again, you can’t let anyone in.
That seems true for a while, but people have often told me that once the right person comes along – everything will change. You let them chip away, you let them in, you let your guard down.
But it’s been so long since you let anyone get that close and the feeling is terrifying. Why? Because you’re feeling everything all at once. All the emotions you refused to feel before, all the hurt you’ve been avoiding is looming in front of you, all the love that you’ve feared is staring you straight in the eye.
You should let your guard down when the right person comes along, but just know that the feeling is overwhelming. That you’re going to feel like everything is about to go wrong. That you’re going to be terrified of being hurt again. That everything you’ve ever wanted could be right in front of you.
You are going to feel everything all at once. And realize how much better that is than feeling nothing at all.