Online dating…I don’t recommend it.
I hate Tinder, Match was awful, Coffee Meets Bagel was annoying, Bumble is just frustrating. All of these things aren’t bad because I’m against online dating, they’re bad because online dating is not for most people.
If you are young, single, career driven, and happy – you really don’t need those dating apps. And going on dates off of them is just going to drive you insane. Why? Because you have better things to do with your time than go eat sushi with a stranger and feel pretty uncomfortable the whole time.
Because you work in a place where you can meet people. Your friends work in places where they can introduce you to people. You go out on weekends to places where you can meet people. You are simply adding another thing to your agenda, something that you aren’t even that enthusiastic about because it is just so awkward.
Despite your age or career, if you’re new to an area or having a hard time meeting people – then I will recommend dating apps (specifically Bumble, the rest are garbage). Because it’s very hard to meet people if you don’t get to go out all the time or if you don’t have any friends in your area. If you really stay home every night with your cat and can’t find anyone to make plans with – then use the apps, go on a date. You’re not wasting any time, you’re just skipping another night of TV and wine, which you can afford to do.
I’ll also recommend dating apps to you if you’re not actually looking for a relationship. If you’re totally cool and down for a hook up or friends with benefits, then I am positive you will find it on Tinder or OKCupid.
Overall, I don’t like dating apps and don’t think they work for a majority of people in their early 20’s, like me. They introduce you to a world of endless possibilities, which actually makes it harder to pick someone to date. Because the selections never end, you might find something better, etc. etc. And if you’re in college then I can guarantee you don’t need those apps.
Dating apps just fulfill a need for attention and cause a lot of conflict when there are so many people available to you. It is totally possible to meet someone in person, it just takes patience and time. Online dating surely works for some people, but I think the rest of us need to delete the app and accept that we’re just attention hungry and bored.