No two relationships are exactly the same. But it is possible that similar feelings will bubble up. That falling in love will seem familiar. It’s possible that you’ll get into the same fights you’ve gotten in before or feel hurt just like you did before.
That doesn’t mean your new relationship is exactly like your old one.
Most relationships have patterns. We all end up fighting over the same things or feeling the same butterflies in our stomach. But it can be pretty scary when a new relationship is reminding you of an old one.
Because you don’t want to fall back into the pattern of your last failed relationship. And you can see the similarities. You see the obsessiveness of love and the addiction of comfort. You see yourself feeling the same way and getting your heart broken the same way.
But no two relationships are exactly the same.
It’s good to remember past relationships because you learn from them. It’s great to be a little weary because you won’t make the same mistakes again.
Chances are, those butterflies in your stomach are a good sign. Sure, you remember them from your last relationship. But that was during a good part of your last relationship.
And chances are, that fight you’re having is so trivial. Every couple has that fight.
Just because your new relationship is reminiscent of your old one does not mean it’s going to pan out the same way. Embrace the memories and learn from them. If the abusive or destructive patterns of your past arise, you now know to back off from this new relationship. But there will always be some sort of familiarity if you’re falling in love again, a familiarity of being happy.
No two relationships are exactly the same, don’t compare your new one to your old one.