I Can’t Blame Anyone But Myself

After a break up, you want to blame everyone else but yourself. You want to blame the girl he cheated on you with. You want to blame your family for not telling you sooner that he sucked. You want to blame your friends for not pulling you away. You want to blame him for the person that he is.

But in the end, when all is said and done, I really can’t blame anyone but myself. I can’t blame anyone else for the way I began to change to fit the mold of my relationship. The way I stopped caring about myself, the way I made the world spin around this “perfect love.”

I can’t blame the girl he cheated on me with, she’s just another victim to his tricks. And I can’t blame my friends and family because we all know I just wouldn’t listen.

I can’t blame him for what he did to me. Because I let him cause me that pain. I let someone treat me like dirt. I let the relationship consume me to the point where I didn’t even know who I was anymore. I’m not someone who likes to fight, I’m not someone who wants drama, I’m not someone who dedicates their entire life and soul to someone else. I can’t blame anyone but myself for becoming that person.

It’s true you brought out the worst in me and it’s true you treated me poorly – but I can’t blame anyone but myself.

And in that sense, I owe everything to myself. Because I am stronger, better, more aware. I moved on from those past relationships and became the person I wanted to be again.

I owe a lot to my family, I owe a lot to my friends, I owe a lot to the people that broke me down so far that I had to pick myself up again. Mostly I owe it all to myself. I did it, I recovered, and I am better.

And while I can’t blame anyone but myself, I also can praise myself. And congratulate myself. And be proud of myself. Because when people knock you down, you can pick yourself up eventually and that’s all that really matters. That you keep moving forward.

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12 thoughts on “I Can’t Blame Anyone But Myself

  1. Rosie!
    Every word of it I not only liked but loved to read it.
    You have been right to say that cant blame…
    Every person is responsible to his or her deeds.
    We always tend to finger it out to the next person or whosoever shall take it to be the victims.
    Congrats!
    Fondest Regards,
    Shiva
    πŸ™‚

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  2. While I am all for accepting responsibility and not playing the blame game… I just feel like I must say if he cheated and treated you poorly he still shoulders at least SOME of the blame. Carry some blame yourself and don’t play the victim – that is awesome… and I wouldn’t blame family, friends, or the other girl definitely… but dude had direct actions he had control over then he can take some of that blame off of you. No need to be that hard on yourself πŸ™‚

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      1. True true, like I tried to relay – you probably did have some part in it such as allowing him to treat you poorly… but I think we also all do that at some point in our lives. It is a learning experience and I’m glad you’ve found growth from this πŸ™‚

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