Those three small words are like a loaded gun. We put all of this emphasis and stress on the phrase “I love you.” Even though we say it freely to friends and family and we say it without care to distant relatives that we barely know. When love is applied to relationships, everything just seems to become heavier.
When is the right time to say I love you?
Well, you don’t want to say it too soon – right? You don’t want to confess all your feelings in the first month of the relationship.
And you don’t want to say it too late – you don’t want the person you’re with to think that you don’t care.
Then of course you want it to be somewhere special, looking at the stars or holding hands in a field. And you have to be wearing the perfect outfit, your hair needs to be on point. You can’t be drunk or have food in your teeth or be somewhere casual, because this is a moment you’ll remember for the rest of your life.
But really, none of the above is true.
There is no too soon or too late. There is no special destination or beautiful outfit. There’s no reason to not be drunk or have food in your teeth. There is no perfect way to say I love you because love is not perfect.
The right time to say I love you is when you feel in love with someone. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you look like, it matters how you feel and if you mean it. The only thing that matters is that you’re saying it because you truly believe it.
The only thing that matters is that there is this person standing in front of you who is doing everything to make you happy, who cares about you, who believes in you. And you try to be just as great for them.
Love comes in all kinds of variations. So when you feel just when sliver of love, you should express it. Life is far too short to not let people know you care about them. The right time to say I love you is when you want to say I love you. When you’re both snorting laughing about something and you realize I love being this weird with you. Or when they finish a whole pizza and you love that they can do that. Love doesn’t need to be heavy, it’s a happy and light thing. Say it when you feel it.