You’re ignoring your standards.
You’ve been single for so long that you feel like you don’t have the right to be picky anymore. But if you’re going to be picky about anything, it should probably be about someone you’re spending all your time with. Don’t date someone just because you can.
You aren’t open to all of the methods of dating.
Getting set up, blind dates, online dating, the old fashioned way – each way of dating isn’t for everyone. But you at least need to give it a shot if you’re going to figure out what works and what doesn’t.
You want to put a label on everything.
You don’t need to be monogamous after the first date. You can casually date more than one person at one time, you can wait weeks or months to decide if you want to be in a committed relationship.
You’re not taking advice from others.
Almost every relationship falls into the same pattern, there are definitely people going through what you’re going through. Reach out to them and actually listen to their advice to avoid making the same mistakes they did.
You’re just not ready.
I don’t care if it’s been two months or two years since your last relationship – you might just not be ready. And that’s okay! Accept your life for what it is now and the rest will follow.
It’s funny because a lot of people told me that I should relax my standards, or that I was being way too picky (which I wasn’t). In the end I’m glad I held to my standards. And online dating isn’t for me. Finally figured that out…
Wonderful tips Rosie. Yes seriously, do not settle and take your time. Don’t feel you have to rush into anything either.
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Yes definitely!
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It’s funny because a lot of people told me that I should relax my standards, or that I was being way too picky (which I wasn’t). In the end I’m glad I held to my standards. And online dating isn’t for me. Finally figured that out…
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I think that’s what everyone jumps to at first but just because you’re single for a while doesn’t mean you’re too picky! Online dating is rough lpl
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Yeah, I mean my main criteria at the time were: single, reasonably attractive, and not crazy. I didn’t think I was asking for too much.
lpl?
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lol I meant! Haha I feel ya though
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or it could mean “laughing pretty loud”
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True! Haha
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Awesome post! 🙂 Very well written! 🙂
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Thank you 🙂
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I was given the casual dating advice this week haha. It definitely takes effort to be able to go with the flow to do that.
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Yea I had an extremely hard time doing it! But it does take the stress out of dating
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