Some people want to be needed. Some people are just needy. Some people don’t need anything at all.
Truly independent people are hard to come by. They have themselves together, they’ve gotten through life and don’t need your help. It’s hard to be in a relationship with someone like that because they are so used to being on their own. It’s so hard to be there for someone like that because they know they can carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.
But they don’t have to anymore.
And that’s what you have to make them realize. When you are dating an independent person and you need to be there for them, you have to show them that you are not taking the world off their shoulders. But you can help them carry it. Or you can take little bits and pieces to lighten the load.
They may resist, and that’s fine. As long as you make sure that they are aware that you are there. That you’re waiting with a safety net to catch anything that falls. That you have your arms wide open in case they need a break.
It’s not easy to be there for an independent person, but it is definitely possible. Because even the truly independent people still need a little help sometimes.