I will be the first to admit that most of my life was spent not being a nice person. I think I tried to be a good person when I was young, but was quickly walked all over in middle school and high school. So I tried being bitchy and it seemed to work better for me.
It kept people out of my life and at arm’s length, it kept me safe and protected, but it was a lot of effort. It was hard to consistently be meanish to people, not because I was denying my nature to be nice, but because you have to be tough all the time and keep up this image that shows people that you don’t want to be bothered. It was like a game, you can’t catch me because I’m dark and edgy and I don’t like you.
Right after I graduated college, I just realized it’s easier to be nice to everyone. You can still keep them at arm’s length, but in a way that you could reach out if you needed to. Back when I wasn’t nice at first glance, people were always disappointed when the can’t catch me girl was caught and wasn’t as dangerous as they thought. I felt like I was never living up to anything and was just over the trend of people not liking me. Who wants to be disliked? Why was I ever that way?
I watched this video on Facebook the other day about a woman who was fat shamed at a Dairy Queen. It absolutely killed me.
I have been working very hard to help build up the people in this world who have been torn down by media, society, and just the pressures of being human. Because I feel all of those things too and I need someone to build me up too. Everyone is fabulous in their own way. I used to get jealous and spiteful when a girl looked better than me, now I’m like damnnnn girl, rock it! If you look hot, I’m going to tell you that you look hot even if I don’t know you.
Because why not? Being mean wasn’t easy, it bogged me down. I think we need to stop striving to be this elusive boss ass bitch and just be nice. You can still be powerful and kind.
Rosie Culture 
Compassion and kindness seem to be qualities that are fading from society. Luckily there are people like you to realize that these qualities are important for everyone.
LikeLiked by 1 person
🙂 I am hoping it is just a phase and kindness will become the popular way to be again
LikeLiked by 1 person
Fight the good fight, Rosie! 💙🌼
LikeLiked by 1 person
I LOVE this post, Rosie!! You are such a sweet person, but I understand when we’re younger we sometimes don’t understand how what we say can effect others. I definitely wasn’t always as kind as I could have been. In hindsight high school is just so hard for everyone! We should’ve all stuck together, haha!
LikeLiked by 1 person
so true!! High school was rough, I try to forgive anything that happened back then lol
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’ve also found being nice is an advantage in the corporate world (which perhaps sounds counterintuitive). But everyone’s human and guess what, we all respond well to niceness!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes! You expect your boss to be bossy, but nice bosses go so much further and do so much better 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Ah, totally agree re: bosses. Actually I was thinking that bosses respect their nice employees, too. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Compassion & kindness are so needed right now.
Thanks for doing your share.
LikeLiked by 1 person
The person who I once called my best friend took advantage of my kindness and currently is putting me through a hell I never imagined I’d be in.
LikeLiked by 1 person
My only advice is to move on and leave them behind. It’s hard but necessart
LikeLiked by 1 person