Do What You Have To After A Break Up

How do I know when a girl just went through a break up? She starts posting selfies, deep quotes and poetry, and sharing Thought Catalog articles about how being alone is better (at least share my blog posts guys, come on). And then all of her relationship pictures start to fade from her social media. Her profile picture changes to a solo pic or a photo of a girl’s night out. And the status quietly changes to single.

It’s all a little cliche. That whole dying your hair a wacky color after a break up to try to change your identity. People talk about it all the time and poke fun at the girls having their poetry induced break through. They talk about how much she’s changed and how funny it is that she never used to act that way.

Well, they change because break ups change you. They force you to look at yourself as a lone person and understand who you truly are. Maybe you are a blonde at heart, a party girl, or an independent being.

Who cares what anyone else thinks? As if they’ve never had a life shattering break up, as if they’ve never hit their single and ready to mingle phase.

We’re all guilty of it, and even if we weren’t, girl, DO YOU! Do what you have to to find yourself,  to feel better and move on. If you have to make out with a lot of people, do it. If you have to talk crap on your ex, do it. If it makes you feel better I did it on a blog for all of the world to see, you can just do it in a group chat. Or start a blog. Why not?

If you have to share poetry about fueling your fucking fire, shout out Christopher Poindexter, then DO it. No one can tell you how to heal. Don’t ever feel silly about the things you are doing to better yourself and move on. I’m rooting for you and every girl who has had their life changed by a break up is rooting for you.

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5 thoughts on “Do What You Have To After A Break Up

  1. That’s why I’m a firm believer into not sharing too much of my personal life on social media with regards to relationships. I didn’t do it when I was married and I don’t do it now. Not everyone on your social media feed is rooting for your happiness. Plus, if you keep posting and then breaking up you’re putting people into your business and then they start to judge you.

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    1. eh I grew up in this world, so it’s hard for me not to share feelings on social media – it just comes naturally to me! I think the best thing about it is that you can quickly clean up the people who aren’t rooting for you or who are judging you. Just another way to start on a new path to happiness 🙂

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  2. I’m so sorry to read and know of what you had to go through.
    I’m what you call private, and not a single vessel on this wordpress site knows nothing about anything. Well, those few people know but not everyone. In any relationship, its up to anyone to share on whose in a relationship and who isn’t. This generation is all over the place with break ups and changing. I know exactly what you mean.

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