The Pressure Of Being In A Relationship In Your 20’s

Every other week someone I know is getting engaged, buying a house, or getting married. When you’re in your twenties, there are three kinds of people in your friend group. The single ones, the ones who met their significant other in high school or college, and the ones who met their significant other after college or a little later in their twenties.

I’m 24 and any friend who met their love in high school or college are now engaged. I fall into the category of the ones who met their love after college, so I feel a little behind. I feel deeply for my single friends, because no matter how happy you are being single, you still feel left out sometimes.

Now I feel a lot of pressure being in a relationship in this stage of my life because everyone automatically expects that engagement and marriage are a few short years away.

But a little over a year ago I didn’t really believe in marriage. I didn’t want it, I didn’t want a relationship, and now while I’m in a relationship I’m still not 100% on board with the idea of marriage.

When I mentioned my boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together, I was asked if I thought a ring was in the future and I replied, “god, I hope not.”

I’m just not ready, but I feel a lot of pressure when a lot of people my age are ready and have been ready. It’s just what comes with my age. When you’re single in your twenties, you’re pressured to find a boyfriend. When you’re in a relationship in your twenties, you’re pressured to get engaged.

As much as I know what I want, it’s hard to ignore that nagging pressure.

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22 thoughts on “The Pressure Of Being In A Relationship In Your 20’s

      1. and its not just the one, as soon as you have had that one, some little old grandma will pop out the woodwork and ask when you are having another and whats worse (so I have been told) if you have decided that you don’t want children, then you get that, but I am sure you will change your mind pressure. As yet the only way I have found to stop it, is to be rude. So if you find a polite way let me know

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  1. I don’t want to pull the old lady card, but wait till you’re in your 30s. It gets a whole lot worse. Every other day I get asked if my bf and I are going to get married and if I want kids. I have a friend who is single and sometimes it gets to her. She feels so much pressure from family, friends, and society to find someone. I am going to say to you what I say to her: ignore everyone else. There is no one way to live your life. What works for some, will not work for others. Relationships, marriage, babies, etc. We’re taught from society that those are things to strive for, but they aren’t. Not everyone wants those thing. Or you don’t want them right now. Go at your own pace and you’ll be the happiest.

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