So I had taken about three years off from committed relationships before diving into the one I’m in now. The last real committed relationship I was in lasted four years and this one has just hit the one year anniversary! 🙂
I learned a lot about myself in the time I spent casually dating and being single. It took me a long time to recover from my last break up, to find myself, and to open up to someone again. So here are the things I’ve learned in the one year I’ve been in a relationship:
- No two people are the same – don’t compare your current boyfriend to your ex.
- Being alone is still very important, you can’t spend all your time with your significant other without going nuts.
- There will be doubts, you just have to know if they’re valid or not.
- Communication will save your relationship. Be honest, always.
- You’ll drift away from your friends. That’s a big part of being in the honeymoon stage and growing older in general.
- No one is as happy as they make themselves seem on social media. Everyone fights, bickers, and gets annoyed at each other.
- Always show appreciation. I am constantly surprised by how patient my boyfriend is with me and I never stop thanking him for it.
- Be yourself from day one. I was weird when we went on our first date and I’m probably a little weirder now, but there were no surprises as the relationship went on.
- Being in a relationship isn’t like being in a jail. I used to cringe at the thought of being tied down, but it’s really not bad when you find the right person.
- Take everything at your own pace. People all around me are getting engaged and buying houses. But I’m a slowpoke when it comes to big steps and that’s okay!