As many of you know, my boyfriend and I moved in together this past weekend. The weeks leading up to it had me antsy to finally be in one place together and stressed to get everything done that needed to get done.
But the excitement was real. It was basically everything we had been waiting for for a couple of months and after a few days of living together, I wanted to share my first impressions of the experience with you.
I was so impatient leading up to our move in because living together would make our lives so much easier and my boyfriend would always be there when I needed him from now on. The move in day was much less glamorous than I had built up in my head. It was a lot of stuff, it was hard, and it was a long day.
At the end of the first night when we were ready to go to sleep, all the dread that had been masked by the excitement washed over me. Moving in is a big step but I wasn’t really regarding it as such, but the big step weighed heavily on me that night. I was giving up my studio apartment that I maintained, paid for, and lived in all by myself. I’ll be giving up more alone time and privacy. In that moment I became scared of what moving in together meant and if I was going to lose myself.
The next few days included unpacking, cooking meals and not ordering out for once, folding each other’s laundry – and the unease dissipated slowly. I know it’s normal to be nervous about a decision like this, but I didn’t even see it coming. I had been so excited that the anxiety hit me like a truck when it was all said and done.
But relationships and big steps require work and I’ve always been slow to get on board with things and hesitant in my relationships so it’s fine to approach this the same way. You can be scared to make big decisions and enter new phases of your life, the unknown IS scary but could also hold great things!
I’m looking forward to sharing what my impression on moving in together is in 6 months because I really don’t know what the future holds for me, but I am willing to find out!
Rosie Culture 
I think y’all are wise to do so. It’ll take some adjustment, and some compromise. But, for the benefit of anything long-term, there’s no better way to gauge your true compatibility. My wife and I lived together for 3 years before getting married. After that, we knew we worked together. I’ve even talked to my boys about this. And when they’re at an age where they have a serious relationship with someone, I’ll recommend they do the same. Good luck, and don’t stress it too much. If it’s meant to be, it’ll work out. 😊
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Thank you 🙂 I don’t know how some people wait until they’re married to live together, it really is a true test of how you can be with each other forever!
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Yep. Can’t hide who one really is when you spend everyday with them. Ride the waves of uncertainty out, because they’ll come. But you’ll know fairly quickly if y’all are truly compatible. Have fun too. I remember those days. 😃
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Gurl, you’re so going to fReAk when you get married! 😀
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oh yeah definitely lol that’s why marriage is far farrrrrrr away
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Hahaha. 😀
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I moved in with my bf back in October. Having lived on my own for so long, I was definitely nervous. It was a bit of an adjustment and I found that it took me a lot longer to having him around all the time than it did for him. But I am happy to report that we’ve worked out those kinks and I really enjoy having him around all the time. It’s nice to know that even when we have our own things going on during the day, we get to go to bed together at night.
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Aw that’s awesome!! We’ve spent A LOT of time together since we moved in trying to unpack and settle, but he’s going away this weekend so I think everything will start to feel normal soon
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Best wishes to you both
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Thank you 🙂
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Yeah, but how’s the loft!? Just kidding! You guys will settle into a comfortable routine with time and it will be a piece of cake. Then you’ll get to the point where not being around him, especially at night feels strange.
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haha it’s awesome we made it into a little reading nook! I agree I think it will just take some time 🙂
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You’ll get adjusted soon! You won’t even realize he’s there after awhile. 😉
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hahah yea I think all we need is a little time (and luckily he’s going away this weekend so we’ll get a little space lol)
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Lol Rosie, there will come a day when you will be sad that he’s going away because sleeping alone is just not the same after you’ve slept with someone in the bed. Hope you enjoy your me time, though. ♡
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I definitely agree! Right now it’s just been too much all at once but I’m sure when the weekend comes I’ll be lonely
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Yes one amazing experience
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What an exciting experience! I remember how excited I was to move in with my husband when we got married! There’s really nothing like it! I mean, you’re merging to previously individual lives together, and trying to blend them into one, cohesive partnership. I’d been single for so long that I couldn’t really anticipate what living with a partner would be like, but it’s really such a fun, interesting life event. I hope the unpacking process goes well for you! Best wishes for you both!
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Thanks so much! It definitely is interesting and takes some time but going well so far 🙂
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Great post..I recently moved in with my bf too and it was an adjustment and still is
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That’s fair, big steps required lots of energy. But you have this. What’s for you, won’t go by you.
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Hey! Me and my partner are having our big move to Newport tomorrow and I am so nervous! Seeing this post has actually helped and calmed me down, thankyou so much! Hope everything is okay!x
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It’s a big adjustment but it’s a lot of fun to live with your significant other! Good luck with the move 🙂
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