Moving In Together – 6 Months In

After about a year and a half of dating, my boyfriend and I moved in together and I wrote about my first impressions here.

Leading up to it, I wasn’t nervous at all. I was excited to be in one place, no more traveling back and forth to see each other and leading separate lives. Everything would be more convenient and it just felt like the next step. But the day we moved in, I freaked. The weight of all that could go wrong fell on me.

We’ve now been living together for six months and a lot has happened. We got a dog, we moved past the newness of living together, we’ve settled. We’ve had friends over, we’ve stayed in, we’ve fought, we’ve enjoyed our time together, and we’ve learned to give each other space.

It all really just happens naturally if you’re not forcing it. Nothing in life is rainbows and butterflies. You’re going to load the dishwasher wrong and he’s going to throw your dry clean only pants in the dryer and the dog is going to chew up all of your socks. Though social media doesn’t quite show those things, that’s just the way life is.

It’s basically nothing like the photo I used for this blog post. It’s not perfect, but that’s okay.

Six months in and we feel very comfortable in our little apartment together with our little family. It feels right for right now, but does have me thinking about the future a lot. Being together is great, but life has other factors and questions to consider. Do we want to live here forever? No, but when can we move? Are we on the right path for our careers? Can we follow those paths together? When’s the time to make next steps? Do we have to get engaged soon? Married? AH!

Everything is moving slow right now and I kind of just want it to speed up. But that’s no way to live and I’m way too uncertain about most of life’s decisions lately to be able to hop skip and jump to the future. All I can do is try to live in the moment and know that the here and now in our relationships and our little home is great.

20 thoughts on “Moving In Together – 6 Months In

  1. Love this! It seems like everyone is worried about next steps after moving in together. My husband and I lived together before we were married and I can honestly say that nothing changed after we got married. We still enjoy hanging out with friends and having nights in together. Just enjoy your time together and see what happens 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

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  2. An interesting perspective on living together, thank you for sharing your experience.

    How do you find “me time” (I.E. time to be alone) or is that not important to you? I personally value my time alone but I know that not every one feels the same way. Indeed some people hate being alone.

    Your mention of the dog chewing your socks made me smile. I once had a dog who, amongst other things chewed a waste paper basket!

    Best – Kevin


    1. me time is VERY important to me! It works out because my boyfriend is much more extroverted than I am, when he goes out with friends I am usually home enjoying alone time. If I need me time while we’re both home, I just go into another room because he understands that I need that.


  3. Now that you live together, everyone will ask,”When are you getting engaged?”

    If you get engaged, it’ll be “When are you getting married?”

    If you get married, it’ll be “When are you having kids?”

    Enjoy your life; take it at your own speed.

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