Our two year anniversary of dating is next week! For a reflection of what I learned after one year, click here.
I learned a lot about myself when I was single, I’ve never been one to jump from serious relationship to serious relationship. I think self exploration can be done in a relationship, it’s just harder. The first year of our relationship involved a lot of learning curves for me, I had been single and independent for a long time and was badly burned after my last relationship. As we approach our two year anniversary, I was given more time for self exploration and growth. Here’s what I learned after two years of being in a relationship.
- It’s okay to be afraid of big steps. We moved in together, we got a dog, I freaked out. But that’s okay.
- Nothing has changed, communication is HUGE. If you are freaking out, you need to tell your partner. They should understand, they should be the one who is able to help you.
- Make time for your friends. There are just some things your boyfriend will never understand. It’s important to have at least one other person to confide in.
- Things will easily start to get boring in the relationship. The simple thing to do most nights is to plop on the couch and watch Netflix. Put in the effort, switch things up, don’t let it get mundane.
- It’s normal to have relationship doubts. Some people just have a harder time settling than other people. If you know yourself, you should know when your doubts are valid or not.
- Alone time is still very important.
- The longer you’re with someone, the more you think about the future. And the more the future becomes about “us” and not “me”.
- No one is as perfect as they look on social media. We bicker – a lot. It’s healthy.
- At the end of the day, love isn’t Romeo and Juliet and dying for someone. It’s choosing to be with the person who you like spending time with – every day with – who you don’t actually hate ever.
- Take everything at your own pace. It may seem like you NEED to follow the steps of getting engaged, moving in together, getting married, and having kids. But just because that’s the normal plan doesn’t mean it’s your plan.
Let me know how long you’ve been in a relationship for and your biggest piece of advice in the comments! 🙂