Missing Being Single And Missing Being In A Relationship

You always want what you can’t have, right? That seems to ring especially true when it comes to relationships. You want the person who doesn’t want you or you want to be single again or you want to be in a relationship again.

When you’re in a relationship, it’s natural to miss being single from time to time. New love is exciting and when you’re single, you can find as much new love as you want. You can go on first dates and get butterflies, you can openly meet new people and get your flirt on at the bar, and you can be fiercely independent. It’s those winces of feelings you remember from the old days that make you miss being single.

And they also make you forget any bad thing that was associated with being single. Those good feelings make you forget how terrible dating can be, how lonely being alone can be, or how frustrating trying to find someone can be.

Because when you’re single, you’re going to miss being in a relationship. And it’s not easy to find someone that you get along with or enjoy spending all your time with. Sure, being single can be fun. But being in a relationship offers warmth, comfort, and someone to depend on. You always have a buddy to do something with. It’s those winces of feelings from the old days that make you miss being in a relationship.

It’s natural to miss both sides because both bring something to the table. The most important piece of advice I can offer, though, is being happy with what you have. If you’re happy being single, then be that. If you’re happy in your relationship, then stay there. Don’t throw away a good thing based off of misconstrued memories.

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12 thoughts on “Missing Being Single And Missing Being In A Relationship

  1. This is why I always say that you need to experience both in order to truly appreciate the other. You can’t truly enjoy being single if you’ve never been in a relationship. Also, I think that everyone should allow themselves to be single, even if it’s just for a little bit, to make being in a relationship that much sweeter. I definitely have moments of missing my single days, but I also think it’s just being nostalgic for that time in my life.

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  2. Nice post here Rosie. I like your point about misconstrued memories. You see, when we miss something, or someone, we tend to remember only the best things about those things or about those people. You are right. I think the reason why people who are in a relationship will miss being single, is partly because the relationship that they are in does not longer have its initial spark. When it comes to matters like this, it is best to commit the relationship into the hands of God, God has the power to direct, guide, and sustain the relationship. For those who are single and are looking to get into a relationship, it is God who establishes true love in anyone’s life. It is God who knows where the perfect soulmate for the person is. Therefore, it is best to pray to God about this, and follow God’s guidance. Ultimately, both those in a relationship, and those that are single, they all have one thing in common, God loves them both. God’s love is greater than any human love. We all need to tap into God’s love and enjoy his divine presence. We also need to make sure that we make God number 1 in our lives, because he loves us the most, he deserves to be our first love, and he does not share his glory with anyone. If you do not yet have a relationship with God, I will suggest that you build one. May God’s blessings be with you. ❤ ❤

    If you want to know about God in more detail, you can find further information here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/10/23/a-few-things-that-i-have-learned-about-god/ And Here https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/

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