Making New Friends

When I moved, I knew my number one struggle would be making friends. Even when I lived in New Jersey, I could have afforded to have a couple more local gal pals. But I resisted making new friends.

Everyone lived at least an hour from me which meant no one to do happy hour with or no one to do spontaneous movie nights with. Everything had to be planned weeks in advance. And while this was inconvenient, it wasn’t enough to push me to make some new friends. I settled with hanging out with coworkers every so often and mostly just making plans with my boyfriend and the dog. And then I’d see my best friends once or twice a month.

Now that I moved, I don’t think that’s going to be enough. I’m not the kind of person who can be BFF’s with my coworkers. I can be friendly and we can get drinks once in a while, but I have a hard time wanting a close friendship with them. Here, I’ll only be seeing my best friends once every couple of months. And while I love hanging out with my boyfriend, sometimes you just need girl time.

So I joined Bumble BFF and put some feelers out in my alumni groups. The problem is creating relationships from scratch. I ran into this issue when I dated too. I find it hard to create a meaningful friendship or relationship with a stranger. You didn’t know me during my hardest times, how could you possibly understand me now?

Anyway, I’m giving it a shot no matter what. I’ll attempt to go on some Bumble BFF dates and report back to you all on how it goes. At least I have my internet friends, right? 😉

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25 thoughts on “Making New Friends

  1. I’m so selective now when it comes to making friends. I’m just not as outgoing as I used to be. Case in point, I’ve been a stay at home mom for almost two months now and I haven’t gone out this whole time. And I’m totally okay with it lol

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  2. I am sure you will find enough friends–how that will happen is a mystery, but I think we instinctively search people out. You’ll know if the people you are spending time with are going to be friends on a deep stomach level. Just listen to it and you’ll be fine.

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  3. I didnt know that was a thing! I’m for sure in the same boat; my friends all live at least 4 hours away. I have a close friend locally, but she’s getting ready to move 3 hours away. 😞

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  4. Great idea to join the group and get involved in some nights out etc. What harm can it do? You’ll have fun and hopefully make some new friends along the way, sounds ideal. Good luck.

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  5. My best friend lives on the other side of the world (literally), and it is a bummer that we can’t do things together. It’s so hard making friends and I completely understand not making close friends at work. I don’t like to get close with coworkers either and I’ve learned the hard way that for me it’s better to act friendly than be friends and invite them into my personal life. Hope you meet some awesome people!

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  6. It’s always worth a shot!! I think that’s something that intimidates / scares me the most and that’s def one thing I think about if I ever decided moving. Hope Bumble BFF goes well for you! It’s gonna be slow but that’s what you need to make those meaningful friendships!

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  7. Bumble BFF sounds like a great idea! I’d be so interested in hearing how your experience goes. We are moving across the country this year and I have no idea how to connect with new people (and I work from home), so it may be a good option for me too, lol. 😉

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  8. This is an issue I have. I have four main girls that I go to for girl time. Two are my sisters and the other two I’ve known since I was in kindergarten. Making new friends has never come naturally to me but I’ll have to learn when I move. Keep us posted on how it goes!

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  9. I get to do this in six months. Not really looking forward to that part of moving, since my boyfriend is the outgoing one, so I’m excited to see how another homebody does it. Keep us updated!

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  10. I have the same problem! You never want to feel ungrateful for the people you have like your sisters and boyfriend but you’re right, sometimes you need girl time with your girl friends! It’s hard but I feel a bit better already knowing I’m not the only person to feel like this 😊 I have moved too so that makes it harder as loads of people have said! Maybe the people who’ve read this post all need to get together and be a new little tribe 😂

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