One of the items I added to my summer bucket list is having an intentional date night at least once a month. I think it’s easy to get lost in our relationships. We get comfortable and we stop going out. We live together so we feel like we see each other all the time – what’s the point of a date?
But getting home from work and sitting on the couch to watch tv together does nothing to build your relationship. It just makes everything stagnant.
So we’re bringing back date nights. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we used to switch off on date ideas. Now back then, we were both trying to woo each other so the date nights were a little bit more extravagant. But it took the pressure off of one person to make the decision and allowed us to explore each other’s hobbies.
I think this is the best strategy to date night, I choose this month and he chooses the next. And now the dates can be a little less extravagant, because we obviously are already into each other. They can be so simple as long as they’re intentional.
Not hey, do you want to order tacos tonight and watch tv? Versus hey, on Thursday let’s order anything you want and rent a movie! Your pick and no cell phones allowed.
The difference is subtle, but huge. Because you’re thinking of each other. You have the other person’s interests in mind. And you’re making time for each other. Our relationship gets lost all the time and we have to communicate and work at it to get it back on track. Date nights help with that.