Breaking Up Because I’m Happy

Republished from 4/19/15

Confused? I think a lot of people in our generation are.  I’m not going to start talking about how I’m 100% clear on what relationships should be like and how we should live our lives.  For the most part, I have no idea.  I can only dictate how I’m feeling and go off of that.

A lot of relationships end because one person is unhappy.  They’ve gotten bored, you make them angry, neither of you puts in as much effort anymore, etc. etc.

Realistically, though, most relationships end because one person is happier.  They just know that they’re happier alone.

You’ve been fighting a lot, spending too much time together, growing apart, and all of the other million reasons people our age break up.  When those stages of break up are occurring, it’s really not that your boyfriend or girlfriend is unhappy with you – they’re just happier alone.

Throughout some of my break ups, the guys I date will say that they didn’t know I wasn’t happy.  That’s because I was always happy, and for some time you were supplementing that happiness.  That stage of the relationship was great!  I enjoyed rocking out in the car with you, grabbing food with you, and making you give me piggy backs in my driveway.  Without a doubt, those things put a smile on my face. Right now, though, you’re just decreasing that happiness. I like to rock out in my car by myself, I like to eat what I want when I want, and I’m still lazy enough to want piggyback rides, but I don’t want all of the strings attached.

I’m happier alone than with you.  That’s not your fault and it’s not my fault, it’s just that some people aren’t meant to be together and you shouldn’t sacrifice living your life in the best way possible for that.

Find someone who will ALWAYS be supplementing your happiness, or be happy alone.

9 thoughts on “Breaking Up Because I’m Happy

  1. I think it’s so important to be happy alone and to understand yourself before sharing your life with someone. I am grateful that after 8 years of marriage my husband understands that wanting to be alone doesn’t mean I love him any less. We broke up A LOT when we were young because we didn’t understand that dynamic or what we needed in life. Great post!

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  2. You’ve hit that relationship nail on the head because we all need to be able to be happy alone before getting involved with someone else. It’s crucial to your well-being I think.

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