Republished from 6/13/15
We are sometimes called the “hookup culture” because of our lack of commitment. We kiss first, ask questions wayyyyyy later. Relationships aren’t exactly what we’re looking for right now and one reason behind this is because we are always speed dating.
Not literally, we don’t move from chair to chair at a long table filled with eligible singles. We don’t ask them their name, age, occupation, etc. then move to the next one. We do scan people quickly, though. We analyze them off of looks first and then if we get a chance to dive a little deeper, all of their superficial criteria.
Our generation has the ability to do this off of a variety of venues. It could be in person, from near or far. It could be through social media or dating websites. It could be through texting, phone calls, or webcams. We have the ability to meet thousands of people at our fingertips.
When you see someone afar at the beach, you judge them on their looks, the way they act with their friends, their demeanor. Based off of that – you could choose to spark communication or drop it.
When someone buys you a drink at the bar, they tell you their major, hometown, maybe some hobbies. You get a good glimpse of their drunk self and their appearance. Based off of that – you could take the drink and continue the conversation or walk away.
When you add someone on Facebook, follow them on Twitter, or follow them on Instagram you get to see their friends, their thoughts, and what they look like in different atmospheres. Based off of that (and never meeting them) you could choose to send them a message or slide into their dm’s.
We can swipe right on Tinder based off of looks, interests, and mutual friends. We can get matched on dating websites we pay for based off of our personalities.
And when we do choose to further communication – it’s mostly going to be through texting just because it’s the most convenient. You can choose to end it even easier because all it takes is a few unanswered text messages.
It’s hard to date in a culture where we’re always meeting new people and ultimately, always speed dating. On one hand, it’s great that we get to meet so many new people! On the other hand, how are we ever going to know who is the one?