You know when you ask kids what they learned in school that day and they say I don’t know? Well, I feel like a kid again because every time someone asks me how work was or what I did that day, I just don’t have a lot to say.
Mostly because I don’t really want to focus on work. But then I begin to ignore things that eat at me.
Thanks to Life of Hayley’s blog post, my boyfriend and I started going over our highs and lows of the day before going to sleep. He was hesitant at first and was like why are you asking me these questions? And even after that, it started slow, with very simple answers like: my low was all the meetings I had. But then it built up to: my high was when I was recognized for the good work I was doing in an important meeting.
We’ve been doing it for a couple weeks and it has helped to open our line of communication a bit more. Because I don’t always feel like talking about the negative things going on in my life, but I should mention them to my boyfriend so he knows what I’ve been dealing with. Even if it’s just a simple sentence when I’m talking about my lows, we’re both more informed on the inner workings of each other’s minds.
I don’t think it’s something we’ll do forever, but it’s working for us now. And who knows, maybe in a few months when we fall out of it we may introduce it again. It’s just a simple way to get talking, which isn’t always the easiest thing to do.