If you haven’t dated in a while, it is very comparable to trying to find a job. Lots of feelers going unanswered, dates that feel like job interviews and rarely go anywhere. It’s exhausting to continue to put yourself out there with no reward.
So it’s easy to look for the easier option – going with what you know. Trying to date someone you’ve already dated before means you already know what you’re getting. You don’t have to try to explain who you are, you’ve already built the foundation.
But it’s also easy to forget why the building you built that foundation on came crumbling down. As time goes by and we get lonelier, the bad things in our past relationship seem to slip away. You just want that security back, you don’t want to be alone anymore, and the exhaustion of dating is creeping up on you.
Dating sucks, but dating your ex is worse. Because while you know each other well, you also know you’re probably getting yourself into something that has an expiration date. Just like it did last time. And I’m not saying this is true for all couples. But if you ended on a bad note and the break up continued on a bad note, getting back together with your ex means you’ll be starting a relationship on a bad note.