I recently read something on Facebook that talked about how this certain person tries to be relatable in conversations by giving an anecdote of their own. For some, this can be seen as trying to be a one-upper, but to this person, they are just trying to show that they understand what you’re talking about.
I really felt that. I’ve never felt good at conversations, when I’m nervous I’ll end up talking about myself a lot. But it’s really because I’m just trying to show someone I’m listening by giving my own relatable story.
This is the habit of a type 4 enneagram. So I took a quiz! I am a type 4/5 enneagram. A type 4 is a strong creative who prides their self on being unique. You can read more about them here. The part of it that stuck out to me the most was the emptiness type 4’s feel. They have a hard time being satisfied because of their constant need for creativity and exploration of the inner self. They can also be self absorbed and defensive to criticism….which I am.
Type 5’s are curious and I think this goes hand in hand with my constant exploration of the inner self. You can read more about them here. Type 5’s can be extremely hard to crack as they don’t often open up. They draw clear boundaries and can be very withdrawn, which I hugely identify with.
Finding out my enneagram was eye opening and comforting to me. True to my types, I feel alone a lot and I feel very misunderstood. But it’s a place I kind of put myself. I am in constant confusion over how the world can work the way it does, how there is life and death, and how this is the life I’m supposed to lead.
Do you know your enneagram? Tell me about it in the comments!