There are different ways that you can settle. You can settle for a job that you might feel uncomfortable with. You can settle for an apartment that you just feel “eh” about. You can settle for a relationship.
I experienced one relationship that really made me terrified of settling. And after college I saw a lot of people graduate with me who just clung on to the first girl/guy they saw and made it into a relationship. It was a good time to settle down, so they just stayed content with whoever they were with at the time.
I’m not sure that there’s anything wrong with that. You could easily settle for someone and live a happy life. Because I think eventually, everyone technically settles.
You could fall in love with anyone if you really tried. In most cases, you could make any relationship work if both parties are willing to put in the work. You don’t have to be in fireworks, fairytale love to have a decent marriage and future life.
For the people who have never thought about it as settling, it’s easy to fall in a pattern and get comfortable with someone and spend your life with them.
For the people who are painfully aware of what settling is, they question everything. What if I find a better job? What if a better apartment opens up next week? What if I’m just making this person work for me because they’re here and I’m ready?
Are relationships just based off timing? Do we all settle in some way because were ready to fall in love and someone is there to fall in love with? I really think that all of that is true, that there is more than one soul mate for you on this earth, that you could truly make anyone your soul mate if you both tried hard enough. If you are both willing to settle.