Love Without The Drama

My first ever relationship was built on uncertainty. It was just like the movies, where there would be some sort of conflict and unrequited love. It was exciting, it made me think that all love needs to be that way. That we need to overcome some kind of problem in order to truly appreciate each other.

Is there love without the drama? Does every relationship needs to be built off of some kind of crisis? That’s just what I was used to, I was used to having to fight for it.  Even though my past relationship didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean there wasn’t something done right in all of that wrong.

Can it all just be smiles and butterflies? On one hand, I’ve heard that love is a constant uphill battle. But on the other hand, I’ve heard when it’s the one everything is easy. I feel like it can’t be both.

Without the drama, there just seems to be a lack of excitement. I grew up on star crossed lovers and as a hopeless romantic. Bella couldn’t be with Edward because he was a vampire. I couldn’t be with one of my exes because of an age difference. We like to be able to fight for someone – so what do we do when they’re just sitting in the palm of our hands, no problems in sight?

All we want to do is fall in love, we’re all so addicted to the feeling. We want someone to want us, we want to be needed, we want everything we’ve read in the books or we’ve seen in the movies. Can love really be easier than we thought it was? Can you get everything you’ve ever wanted and more without putting your life on the line for someone?  Can that addicting love be obtained without all of the drama?

We’re just not used to things in life being simple, especially when it comes to love.

15 thoughts on “Love Without The Drama

  1. I think too many people confuse passion for drama. I think that there can be drama, even as things are happy. Nothing in life is perfect, and so there is plenty in the world that can be fought against as a team, as opposed to between each other. Just my opinion.

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  2. As someone that suffers from depression, I have found that I hate medication. The reason for this is because it deadens everything – even happiness. It creates a mundane Balance to your emotions and minimizes the highs and the lows. I tend to think that if you had a relationship that had no lows, then how can you appreciate the highs???4$[

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      1. I tend to think in terms of good versus bad and as long as the good outweighs the bad, then I’m good to go! 🙂

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  3. Oh man, I’m living this right now! I learned that yes, love can happen without the angst and drama. I, too, am used to love being complicated and having to fight for it. I thought that’s what being soul mates was like. If it wasn’t intense and addictive, then it wasn’t true love. But in my current relationship, it was the complete opposite. The only thing I was fighting was myself and my belief of what love should feel like. Now that I’ve experienced this type of love, the other seems exhausting and crazy making. There’s good things I got from those experiences, but I prefer the way I feel now, aware and clear headed. That’s been my experience at least. 😊

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  4. to fall in love is easy, to stay in love is hard work.
    Fight me, bite me and let me understand you. Hurt me, save me, nurse me and let me fall in love again.
    seduce me, fuck me like the way the love it. be the one to slap me and have me but leave room for me to be me.

    Love is just to complicated. LOL Or something like that. Not one is the same as the other. its is an obstacle race you can’t do alone you either reach the finish together or one has fallen half way.

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  5. I do agree in a sense you need drama or it gets boring. It doesn’t have to be that vicious drama that makes your relationship to from one extreme to the other. You both just need other things going in your life to tell each other about and to talk about. It’s those interests, hobbies, and even types of friends, along with your guy/girls personality that attracts you to them. You do need some kind of stuff going on in life. Hopefully, life itself takes care of that 🙂

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  6. I love this article!!! You are right!!!

    When I was 20 years old (18 years ago), my best friend told me that I was in love with love and that I amplify every feeling I was feeling therefore when it comes to getting disappointed, it’s like a full on betrayal when in fact, we were just dating for a week.

    I guess she’s right. Looking back @ my life story… I haven’t been really in love til my husband 😀

    I just love to wallow on the dramatics!

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