We all change, it’s inevitable. We grow up, we experience new things, go through phases, meet new people. We take every little experience and slowly it changes us into a different person over time.
Sometimes we anticipate change, sometimes we’re thrown into it head first.
Something that will definitely change a person is heart break. Getting your heart broken causes you to feel a lot of emotions during a time where you’re just trying to get better. You were in a beautiful relationship, you were happy. It ended, you’re distraught. You’re trying to get over it, you’re okay. He’s dating someone else, you’re devastated.
It will wreak havoc on who you were.
The person you change into is in no way a bad version of yourself – just very different. It may not seem that way to you, because you went through it all and understand the outcome. But one day you’ll wake up and realize you’re nothing like you used to be.
Along with the inevitable change is the inevitable way we will sometimes revert. When we change due to small happenings in our life, it’s often because we are becoming someone who can protect themselves from hurt. But there comes a time when that wall can tumble down a little, where you can become who you were before you were broken.
It’s someone you faintly recognize – there’s an innocence again, vulnerability, and openness. It’s someone you remember, but had at one time completely forgotten she existed. You are becoming whole again – you are feeling yourself and remembering yourself as a whole person again.
Any way you change, make sure it is for the better. Don’t be afraid to keep growing, don’t be afraid to revert if that’s the right thing for you. A broken heart may disguise you for a little bit – but you will be whole again one day. You will be who you were before you were broken, but better.
Rosie Culture 
I wish there was a “like a lot” button! Great post.
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Aw thank you :)!!
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This is personally so empowering for me- for a year I was in an extremely abusive relationship that truely broke me- coming out of it with “extreme anxiety and severe depressive symptoms”. But as long and I can keep heading towards someone good- someone who I want to be- it will all be okay. Thank you for sharing 🙂
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Thank you for reading! All I can tell you is that it takes some time, but keep moving forward and striving to be your best self and you will end up being that person:)
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Difficult topic but you manage to give hope. Inspiring. I am going to pass this on to a friend of mine who could do with reading this. Thanks
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Thank you! I hope it helps your friend, even if it’s just to remind them that we have all gone through situations like this and they are not alone
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I’ve been thinking about this, myself… thinking how far did I go to not recognize who I am and to have forgotten who I was at a simpler, more energetic, fuller time in my life. Thanks!
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No problem! I didn’t really even realize how much I missed my old self until I started going back to it
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This is very comforting––the hope that we can one day become less dark. Thank you so much for this post!
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It takes time but it can definitely happen! Thank you for reading 🙂
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Wonderful post and so much truth to this Rosie! It’s the sad reality that often it is the emotionally scarring incidents that lead to change in our lives. But we need to move on, and learn to let the good moments in life shape our characters.
And rather than being bitter in life, we’d certainly be better off as positive souls with hope in our hearts! Lovely message and I really liked the post, cheers 💕
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Thank you so much, I totally agree with what you have to say here 🙂 The sad times may change us, but we can control how they do it
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Yes, we can! ☺️👍 (Remind me to thank Obama for that slogan 😜😂)
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I love this whole thing, it is so inspiring! I just posted a blog about heartbreak too! 😊
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Thank you 🙂 I’ll def stop by and read it!
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;( Rosie you make me sad! I’d love to see you a happy lady 🙂
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I am definitely a happier person now 🙂
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Love this post. It’s okay to take the lessons you learned and change and grow.
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Thank you – I agree! 🙂
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Change can however over complicate things. We change and we might change back to a resembling person we used to be, but we never will be the same again. Hurt has a way to leave a mark.
Are we not looking behind us to much. About who we were? Did we not get wiser, better and smarter the times we failed? Heartbreak is killer and I still feel it every day. Looking back only increases the hurt.
“I once was what I disliked and even now I am far from perfect.
I have changed but won’t change for anyone.
What was still is, the changes irreversible but not undoable.
Not now wanting to be how I was or am.
Letting the choices become the man I am today or tomorrow.
Without regret of the change I keep moving forward.”
Sigh, as you can see a shadow has been cast over me. And though it is raining I am looking up and ahead.
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That’s all you can do! It’s okay to change and take lessons from heart break, it will always hurt a little but will cause us to be better people
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Powerful words and so hopeful
Absolute truth – love this
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Thank you 🙂
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😊😊😊
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Loved this piece so much. I had to re-blog it. It says so much with what am going through in life.
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Thank you so much for reblogging :)!! I just left a comment on your blog – for some reason WordPress is silly and didn’t link back to me.
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