On a recent blog post called Choosing Love, Candid Compositions mentioned how important it is to know each other’s love languages and I completely agree. I started looking into love languages in the past couple years and kind of assumed that mine was receiving gifts.
But I decided to do some official digging and take a quiz and found out a little more about myself. My main love languages are quality time, and then a tie for second is acts of service and receiving gifts. These are extremely accurate. I love spending time with my boyfriend, I love traveling and doing things together. I love doing nothing together.
Turns out, his love language is quality time too. I don’t know why I was surprised to see that. We differ in so many ways, but our main ways of expressing love are the same. Our secondary love language of acts of service were also the same, but he favors physical touch over receiving gifts.
I was a little surprised, but I shouldn’t have been. From day one, we loved to travel, go places together, and explore. And as our relationship grew, we enjoyed a lot of alone time just sitting on the couch watching Netflix together.
I love quality time. But I also love when he does things for me because I’m a lazy potato and it means a lot. When it comes to receiving gifts, I do love a good present, but I feel like that’s a love language I treat myself to a lot. I don’t necessarily need a partner to act on that love language frequently, I do it for myself and that makes me happy!
Which I think is another important part of love languages, it’s important to know how you receive love so you can love yourself! Spend quality time with yourself, treat yourself, and do things for yourself that make you feel good. Understanding yourself will help you understand your partner and that’s a win on all ends.