There are a lot of things that happen to me that I can’t just let roll of my back. But I wish I could. Some people are so good at that. Things happen, they take it in, and they move on. But not me, I carry it with me forever.
I once overheard a coworker get (deservedly) scolded by their manager. The problem was their fault and they made a mistake and after getting scolded they just shrugged and said sorry. I think I would have cried.
I’ve been sternly talked to by a manager and it left me in a puddle. I couldn’t talk, I was nervous, I was shaky, and I never forgot about it. I’ve also been yelled out by coworkers (undeservedly) and felt the same way. I’ve been in situations that are just filled with drama and overreaction and although I know that, I know realistically this whole thing is dumb and shouldn’t impact my day. But it does. And it impacts more than my day.
There are so many things and people that don’t deserve your time and energy. But I just can’t help but care. I can’t help but give it my energy, give it my time, give it my all. Even if I’m getting nothing but negativity in return.
I think it’s hard for a lot of people not to dwell on issues like that! I still remember being yelled at by my manager nearly four years ago for taking an eyebrow brush out of my purse while the office was closed. Not sure why I still remember it, but I do; and, to be honest, it makes me cringe a little bit. As I get older, I tend to get more sensitive, and although I try not to take things personal, it’s definitely hard sometimes to just shrug it off.
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Ugh isn’t it terrible how those little things stick with you? I cringe at so many past work memories
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I certainly sympathize with you on this! In my case, I usually freeze or cry or both and minutes later I start thinking of all the things I should have said in my own defense but it is too late, then, I get a little mad at myself for not speaking up or for crying! It’s a hard one to tackle!
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I totally understand! I hate being confronted without being able to prepare, it takes me a while to gather myself and know how to respond
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I feel your pain! My first reaction to these types is confrontation is also to cry and/or shake and not be able let it go. I also wish I were better at shrugging it off and not taking things so personally. Thanks for sharing! Even though it’s an awful feeling it’s nice to know you aren’t alone in it. Keep your head up!
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I agree! Thank you 💕
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I’m terrible at it.
I keep trying and I fail.
If you ever figure out how to care less, let me in on the secret.
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I’m not sure there is anything wrong in caring Rosie. I’d much rather people cared than didn’t. Although I am similar and let any personal comment really affect me. Difficult to handle sometimes isn’t it?
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Definitely! I would prefer to care as much as I do now than to not care at all, but it is difficult.
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I completely relate to this – I still cringe about times I was yelled at by a coworker or harsh words that were said. But with every difficult experience we get a little more resilient and learn.
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Sometimes not caring isn’t a blessing. We can sometimes shrug off the good things as well as we shrug off the bad and doesn’t really serve us either.
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ah so hard to find a good in between
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It really is!
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