A huge part of entering a new relationship is the feeling of “wow, I’ve never felt like this before.” It’s a blossoming love that doesn’t compare to your old love or old relationships. That’s why you wanted to commit, that’s why you wanted this person to be your partner, because they are special.
But are we all special? Is every relationship we enter actually special? I never entered relationships lightly, so every boyfriend I’ve ever had was better than the last. Because I learned from past mistakes and past exes, I don’t believe in committing unless it’s something special.
The less relationships you’ve been in, the easier it is to pinpoint who is special and who isn’t. If you haven’t dated someone in a long time, it’s easier to feel that wow moment because it’s been so long since you have even felt for someone in that way.
But to the people who have been in more relationships – is every one special? Is each relationship better than the last? You recently felt strongly for someone, but now you feel strongly for someone else.
It’s possible that your relationship could be extremely unspecial. Because instead of moving up, you just move forward. You just settle where the happiness brings you. And that’s all fine and good – but there is still the possibility that you could be in your last relationship and be happy, you never needed to move on. Because in your new relationship, you don’t have that feeling of “wow, I’ve never felt like this before.” You have felt like this before.
Not every relationship can be fireworks and fairytales, but everyone in some way wants to feel special. Different experiences have us tackle dating in different ways. Ways that may be hard to understand to others.