Dating After College

College is a great time to meet the person you’re going to marry.  You might not date them while you’re a freshman or sophomore and still getting the hang of things, but there is a huge possibility you’re going to meet the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with.  You’re constantly going to parties, classes, club meetings, the bar, the gym, and a variety of other places where there are always new people available to you to meet.  Chances are, one of your hookups that you enjoyed hanging out with will end up being your soulmate when the time becomes right.

So if you graduated single, did you miss your chance of meeting your future husband/wife?

Sure, you still have some venues to meet new people as a post grad.  There’s work, the gym, the bar, and mutual friends.  I was watching Say Yes To The Dress the other day and the bride met her husband while driving down the freeway! There’s always possibilities, but is our dating pool much smaller as a post grad?

There are less single people available our age after graduation.  Especially in the workforce.  You’re going to have a lot of people who are older than you and a small group of people your age.  Then, you have to use your super-sight to see if they have a ring on their finger or if they’re even someone you would be interested in if you weren’t so desperately single.

The truth is, it’s going to be harder to find your soulmate after college. But, patience is a great thing and apparently so is waiting to get into a relationship after college.

On the positive side, the longer you wait to get married, the more established and comfortable you’ll be in your own life in order to accept someone else into it.

Whether you’re finding your future in college or after graduation, don’t sweat it. Your happily ever after will come at its own pace, but you didn’t miss your chance by not settling down in college.

17 thoughts on “Dating After College

  1. There is a lOT of logic in this article. I have 2 adult children who chose someone while young and had kids. One is still married, other is not. My youngest is going to wait, is 29 and college grad working on career but in a serious non-living arrangement. I wish I had waited. . . Married my college sweetheart at 22, children and divorced at 29. statistics say 50% chance. Please wait and make sure 🙂

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    1. Wow thanks for sharing! Sometimes I feel like waiting until after college to find a relationship was a mistake, but the statistics don’t lie.

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  2. Reading this post made me nervous, but then at the end it made me feel a lot better. I’m going to be a junior in college this coming fall, but I’m definitely going to take my time and wait to jump in a serious relationship again rather than force it on myself.

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      1. I totally agree with that, and it’s definitely not something people should do. I know it’s cliche to say this, but we should really just go with the flow and see where life brings us, and who life brings us. Hope you’re having a lovely Father’s Day Rosie! xx

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  3. I’ve been single for my entire college career, and this kind of thing worries me. Yet I know that doing my own thing is important, and someone who can handle that will figuratively fall into my lap at a later date.

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    1. From someone who was in a relationship for most of college, you’re doing the right thing! Learning to be on your own is definitely important for the future.

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  4. I agree that it gets harder to date once we’re out in the working world post-grad. My 30 year old single friend has never dated… but with her, it always seems to be something that’s holding her back.

    As for dating, I don’t think we need to date someone else from the same school. My husband and I went to different universities in different cities. That being said, I do agree that there are lot more single students which is why I think dating while in university is a good idea. I didn’t date until I was 21, but I’ve been with the same person ever since. I also dated a few losers during that short period of time to get a taste of what dating was like prior to meeting my husband. It’s good to know exactly what you want. Dating is exhausting as it is, so why make it more complicated?

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  5. Dating in college is easier, in the sense that outside college, you don’t have the structured social setting of being surrounded by only people of your own age. But, assuming you are looking for a long-term relationship, the goal is someone you can have long-term compatibility of goals and values. If you aren’t sure of your long-term goals/values in college, or if they change, college isn’t necessarily the best time for serious dating. Not that I think one has to be perfectly settled in order to date, but a stronger sense of goals, some financial independence/stability and self-awareness, are definitely good things to develop prior to jumping into dating.

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