It feels like a lifetime ago, but when I was dumped back in college I actually learned a lot about myself that helped shape me into the person I am today. A break up can often be a great thing for us. Here are 10 things great things that came from my boyfriend dumping me:
1. The friendships I made
My relationship was so consuming it was completely holding me back from forming complete and amazing friendships.
2. Learning how to recover from a life changing event
It’s not easy and it wasn’t pretty, but I am a stronger person because of it and I know the next life changing event will be a little easier because of it.
3. Reconnecting with my family
Once again, my relationship was so time consuming that the time I spent with my family was also usually spent with my boyfriend.
4. The opportunity to be wild and free
I had the excuse of just being dumped to go crazy and do what I want to get it all out of my system and get me to the point of being level headed and happy.
5. Growing my career
My career path was always confusing and stifled when I was in a relationship because I was going to have to be where he was and do something with hours to accommodate him.
6. Growing my hobbies
I basically didn’t have hobbies in my relationships that didn’t include my boyfriend. I’ve learned new things and started this blog which is amazing in itself.
7. Realizing what is and is not healthy
Suffocating relationships are not healthy. Weekly pizza dates are not healthy. Skipping the gym because your boyfriend says you look fine is not healthy. I am an overall more fit and healthy person now.
8. The mini relationships I had since the big break up
Sure, most of them didn’t end so well. But I’ve had the chance to meet amazing people, form great bonds, and learn more about what I need from a partner.
9. Saving money
Like you would not believe how much money I have to spend on myself, to treat my friends, and spoil my family with ever since I became single.
10. Finding who I am
My relationships blinded me and I couldn’t separate myself from them. I am healthy, happy, strong, and able now. I never could have said that before.
So thank you.