I grew up in this very specific point of the 2000s where one of the worst things you could be called was a “poser.” I was deep into the emo aesthetic and refused to like anything considered cool. I didn’t wear pink, I didn’t like Taylor Swift, I refused to wear yoga pants and leggings because I didn’t want to be basic.
It took me a long time to get past hating popular things. It was pretty engrained in me and I’ll credit a lot of that to internal mysogyny and not knowing how to support other women when they were different than me.
But now – I’ve full-on embraced it. It’s a lesson that took me a long time to learn. You should wear things or listen to things or do things because you LIKE them. Not because they’re cool or not cool or fit your aesthetic. Taylor Swift is popular because she’s a bad ass independent woman with some major bops. Yoga pants are popular because they’re comfortable. If people want to do things that make them “basic” then that’s just fine.
Popular things are popular for a reason, it’s because they’re good and people like them!
I actually think this realization is one of the best things about being an adult. Growing up and trying to fit in while wanting to stand out is so difficult. You either like the popular things to fit in or you rebel against them, like I did, to stand out. As a 28 year old, I don’t really feel the need to impress anyone and if I did, I’m not going to let that stop me from fan girling over Olivia Rodrigo, wearing duckboots that don’t match my outfit in the winter, or making TikToks because I think it’s fun.
Stop hating on people who like popular things and just let people live their lives.